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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 572163" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>My mom is telling me about this. I listen because I know she needs to talk. I see niece very rarely. When I decided that bro would not be in our lives, he decided that we could not see niece. He is okay if we are at my folks when she is, but we cannot give her gifts, etc... Largely because I won't accept gifts from him to my kids. This came about when I realized that every time either of the kids so much as wore a shirt he gave them they had nightmares that night. Not worth the stress, even on the rare occasion that he would give something they actually like. Most of the gifts he has given are so clearly things the recipient would neither use nor like that they were a slap in the face, in my opinion. </p><p></p><p>Niece has had to be a strong young lady. No real choice as her mother has her half the week and is drunk/stoned so much she is often passed out. Niece spends a lot of time with my folks. At least one night a week during many semesters because gfgbro seems to always have a night class. Mom keeps her overnight because it is silly to wake a kid up at ten or later at night just to take her home and put her into bed. Instead my mom gets up, gives her bfast and gets her to school. My parents do a LOT of babysitting for both bro and exsil. WAY more than they ever did for us. I can still remember my mom saying they would take Wiz when they wanted him, but we could not ask them to sit more than 2 times a month unless we had some emergency. They end up with niece on average of 3 days a week after school and on weekends, but that is the low side and many times it is all night. They are afraid of what will happen to her if they tell exsil no, and when they tell bro they cannot babysit then he has a 'crisis' and has to go to a meeting or he might drink. About a decade sober and he pulls this almost every time they tell him that they cannot babysit. I find it laughable, but I am not the one dealing with him, and I won't be the one dealing with it either.</p><p></p><p>NO chance my parents would EVER report him to CPS. They will report exsil if they can, but in my opinion they should have years ago. But it is their decision. </p><p></p><p>I think it is rather ironic that he is stalking his ex, because shortly after they split up his ex would show up wherever he was and try to start a fight so she could claim he was abusing her. Of course he bit, but people who were there flat told exsil's atty that it was clear that she started it and that she hit bro but he didn't hit back. He wouldn't hit back in public, he is too sneaky for that. he waits until no one is looking, I could have told her that. </p><p></p><p>I really hope and pray that niece survives her parents. Esp as her mom has been known to treat her bulimia by losing weight via taking stimulants. I know she used to get adhd medications for that, and I would not be surprised to find a meth or crack habit, though mostly she is usually on opiates. Niece is smart, and sweet, and very very loving. I hope my parents have provided enough stability for her to have a clue what stability is.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 572163, member: 1233"] My mom is telling me about this. I listen because I know she needs to talk. I see niece very rarely. When I decided that bro would not be in our lives, he decided that we could not see niece. He is okay if we are at my folks when she is, but we cannot give her gifts, etc... Largely because I won't accept gifts from him to my kids. This came about when I realized that every time either of the kids so much as wore a shirt he gave them they had nightmares that night. Not worth the stress, even on the rare occasion that he would give something they actually like. Most of the gifts he has given are so clearly things the recipient would neither use nor like that they were a slap in the face, in my opinion. Niece has had to be a strong young lady. No real choice as her mother has her half the week and is drunk/stoned so much she is often passed out. Niece spends a lot of time with my folks. At least one night a week during many semesters because gfgbro seems to always have a night class. Mom keeps her overnight because it is silly to wake a kid up at ten or later at night just to take her home and put her into bed. Instead my mom gets up, gives her bfast and gets her to school. My parents do a LOT of babysitting for both bro and exsil. WAY more than they ever did for us. I can still remember my mom saying they would take Wiz when they wanted him, but we could not ask them to sit more than 2 times a month unless we had some emergency. They end up with niece on average of 3 days a week after school and on weekends, but that is the low side and many times it is all night. They are afraid of what will happen to her if they tell exsil no, and when they tell bro they cannot babysit then he has a 'crisis' and has to go to a meeting or he might drink. About a decade sober and he pulls this almost every time they tell him that they cannot babysit. I find it laughable, but I am not the one dealing with him, and I won't be the one dealing with it either. NO chance my parents would EVER report him to CPS. They will report exsil if they can, but in my opinion they should have years ago. But it is their decision. I think it is rather ironic that he is stalking his ex, because shortly after they split up his ex would show up wherever he was and try to start a fight so she could claim he was abusing her. Of course he bit, but people who were there flat told exsil's atty that it was clear that she started it and that she hit bro but he didn't hit back. He wouldn't hit back in public, he is too sneaky for that. he waits until no one is looking, I could have told her that. I really hope and pray that niece survives her parents. Esp as her mom has been known to treat her bulimia by losing weight via taking stimulants. I know she used to get adhd medications for that, and I would not be surprised to find a meth or crack habit, though mostly she is usually on opiates. Niece is smart, and sweet, and very very loving. I hope my parents have provided enough stability for her to have a clue what stability is. [/QUOTE]
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