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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 299685" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am sorry he is just a brat about this. It seems to me like it is time to tell him the budget is $30 or $40 period. Then you can take him to a Goodwill, Salvation Army or other thrift store.</p><p></p><p>There is NOTHING wrong with used clothing other than the style isn't the latest and greatest must have fashion.</p><p></p><p>If aat all possible give him the small amt of money and tell him that is it for the school year. then let him do all the shopping and paying. Do NOT add socks, underwear, shoes or anything else onto that small amount of money. </p><p></p><p>New clothes are NOT something anyone has a "right" to. And if he is ever to learn from this it will be smart to make the lesson that being a spoiled brat who throws tantrums will mean you get cut off of the family money supply. Period.</p><p></p><p>Kids who are in custody for various reasons do not get anything CLOSE to that much $$ for clothes for a YEAR. My son spent 4 months in a psychiatric hospital and boy did my eyes get opened up! A couple of times when I visited him I noticed cuts and tears in his clothing. He also had one pair that itched and drove him nuts. When I came to visit and give him some other clothing the staff said they would prefer if I did NOT give them to him</p><p></p><p>He had been purposely damaging his clothing and was supposed to work to earn new clothes (in stead of working me over emotionally until I caved and bought the new stuff!). </p><p></p><p>At 15 this behavior is just going to get worse. LOTS worse. Keep a phone on your person so you can call 911 if he tries to hurt you. Or your home. You need to adjust to being called a "bad mommy" or a "mean" one. When my oldest went through that routine he lost a LOT of privileges very very quickly.</p><p></p><p>So my suggestion is to drastically cut the clothing budget. Do what you can to ignore his tantrums. If he has a lot of clothes that still fit then maybe he doesn't really NEED new clothing. Be prepared for him to break some stuff. If he starts call the police and have him taken to a psychiatric hospital. If you don't do this stuff then he will NEVER stop treating you this way.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 299685, member: 1233"] I am sorry he is just a brat about this. It seems to me like it is time to tell him the budget is $30 or $40 period. Then you can take him to a Goodwill, Salvation Army or other thrift store. There is NOTHING wrong with used clothing other than the style isn't the latest and greatest must have fashion. If aat all possible give him the small amt of money and tell him that is it for the school year. then let him do all the shopping and paying. Do NOT add socks, underwear, shoes or anything else onto that small amount of money. New clothes are NOT something anyone has a "right" to. And if he is ever to learn from this it will be smart to make the lesson that being a spoiled brat who throws tantrums will mean you get cut off of the family money supply. Period. Kids who are in custody for various reasons do not get anything CLOSE to that much $$ for clothes for a YEAR. My son spent 4 months in a psychiatric hospital and boy did my eyes get opened up! A couple of times when I visited him I noticed cuts and tears in his clothing. He also had one pair that itched and drove him nuts. When I came to visit and give him some other clothing the staff said they would prefer if I did NOT give them to him He had been purposely damaging his clothing and was supposed to work to earn new clothes (in stead of working me over emotionally until I caved and bought the new stuff!). At 15 this behavior is just going to get worse. LOTS worse. Keep a phone on your person so you can call 911 if he tries to hurt you. Or your home. You need to adjust to being called a "bad mommy" or a "mean" one. When my oldest went through that routine he lost a LOT of privileges very very quickly. So my suggestion is to drastically cut the clothing budget. Do what you can to ignore his tantrums. If he has a lot of clothes that still fit then maybe he doesn't really NEED new clothing. Be prepared for him to break some stuff. If he starts call the police and have him taken to a psychiatric hospital. If you don't do this stuff then he will NEVER stop treating you this way. [/QUOTE]
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