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<blockquote data-quote="Iamwipedouttoo" data-source="post: 300058" data-attributes="member: 7829"><p>I went through this a few weeks ago with my difficult child and my other kids so I feel your pain!</p><p> </p><p>I set a clothes allowance for each child based on what each needs not what each wants and if it turns out they don't need anything I still will buy them (or give them the $ to buy) a two-three new shirts and one or two pairs of jeans. I do not feel that after kids stop growing there is any need to revamp an entire wardrobe just because it's the beginning of school.</p><p> </p><p>This year, I asked each of them to go through their clothes and shoes and to make piles of what did not fit and what they didn't wear anymore to get ready for the school year. They all had a week to go through their stuff.</p><p> </p><p>Well, difficult child decided it was more important to go out with friends, talk on the phone or spend time on the computer. As I was going through my son's things like was planned she announced that she wanted to go shopping with a friend of hers the next day and demanded to know how much $ I was going to give her!</p><p> </p><p>I told her we still needed to go through her things. She pitched a fit and said just forget it and stormed off to make plans with her boyfriend. I was proud of myself for not giving in just because the shopping needed to get done!</p><p> </p><p>I'm a bad person for asking her to go through her things I guess! <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/faint.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":faint:" title="faint :faint:" data-shortname=":faint:" /></p><p> </p><p>I didn't say another word about it and the next morning she came to me and told me she had gone through her things and wanted to know when I could go through them with her and then asked me to take her shopping THAT day (apparently friend fell through)!!! WTH?! </p><p> </p><p>I told her I could go shopping with her the following day and while she pitched a fit for awhile, saying I never do anything for her, I'm so mean, etc., I stayed strong and told her it was that or she would need to wait until a day during the week. She stormed off again but eventually showed back up saying tomorrow would be fine.</p><p> </p><p>As a side note...difficult child started working last summer and has a job now during the school year, as well (she quit her team sport <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" />) so she's really learned the value of a dollar now that she actually earns her own money. This has helped tremendously with the amount of $ she demands...and purposely losing or destroying what she has...now she realizes how hard we have to work for what we have!</p><p> </p><p>(((hugs))) Sometimes kids can be frustrating!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Iamwipedouttoo, post: 300058, member: 7829"] I went through this a few weeks ago with my difficult child and my other kids so I feel your pain! I set a clothes allowance for each child based on what each needs not what each wants and if it turns out they don't need anything I still will buy them (or give them the $ to buy) a two-three new shirts and one or two pairs of jeans. I do not feel that after kids stop growing there is any need to revamp an entire wardrobe just because it's the beginning of school. This year, I asked each of them to go through their clothes and shoes and to make piles of what did not fit and what they didn't wear anymore to get ready for the school year. They all had a week to go through their stuff. Well, difficult child decided it was more important to go out with friends, talk on the phone or spend time on the computer. As I was going through my son's things like was planned she announced that she wanted to go shopping with a friend of hers the next day and demanded to know how much $ I was going to give her! I told her we still needed to go through her things. She pitched a fit and said just forget it and stormed off to make plans with her boyfriend. I was proud of myself for not giving in just because the shopping needed to get done! I'm a bad person for asking her to go through her things I guess! :knockedout: I didn't say another word about it and the next morning she came to me and told me she had gone through her things and wanted to know when I could go through them with her and then asked me to take her shopping THAT day (apparently friend fell through)!!! WTH?! I told her I could go shopping with her the following day and while she pitched a fit for awhile, saying I never do anything for her, I'm so mean, etc., I stayed strong and told her it was that or she would need to wait until a day during the week. She stormed off again but eventually showed back up saying tomorrow would be fine. As a side note...difficult child started working last summer and has a job now during the school year, as well (she quit her team sport :frowny:) so she's really learned the value of a dollar now that she actually earns her own money. This has helped tremendously with the amount of $ she demands...and purposely losing or destroying what she has...now she realizes how hard we have to work for what we have! (((hugs))) Sometimes kids can be frustrating! [/QUOTE]
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