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Now that I kicked my 18 year old daughter out, where do I go from here?
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<blockquote data-quote="Cindy Marie" data-source="post: 709541" data-attributes="member: 21540"><p>I know this is so unhealthy for me and my husband. As much as this worries me and consumes me, I do have faith or certainly trying to maintain it. My head is filled with the scriptures and the voice of my mother repeating them such as "Cast your burden on the Lord, and He shall sustain you; He shall never permit righteous to be moved" Psalm 55:22. "For I, the Lord your God, will hold your right hand, saying to you, "Fear not, I will help you." Isaiah 41:13. My mother always said if you give the devil enough rope ,he will hang himself. She also repeated Sin will destroy itself. I know the devil is for sure testing my faith and he will not win. I know worrying is not going to change one thing either and while my faith is being tested-hence- my worries that I have shared with you all-it no doubt makes it difficult for remaining relaxed and not thinking about it.</p><p></p><p> I have always loved the outdoors- flowers and gardening- and with my back issues and limited movement in my hips and legs-even before my total hip replacement- I was born with a partial hip socket- I lost a lot of muscle mass in my affected leg and can not lift it if I am sitting or lying down and it is painful to sit down as it is difficult to stand back up and now with the back issues, my other leg is almost in the same shape and of course the nerve damage in my dominant arm and hand makes it hard to hold or grip, the ruptures I have endured in my neck as well as my lumbar and surgery-2 level fusion through the front of my neck has limited mobility looking down or bending but my gait is overall fine and to see me you would not know what I have physically been through- I am only 46 years old. But I never once questioned God as I am alive and breathing and I am so grateful to be here and know my work on earth is not done. I am so blessed and thankful for all that I have. Yard work has always been my therapy but a little more challenging these days. We have a much smaller yard than our old house. My girls were looking so forward to us moving into a new house after 19 years and no more than we got our feet into the door, the problems have escalated and tried to destroy us. I was so thankful we finally moved too and my focus was decorating our new home and we virtually started over with new furnishings- a new beginning or so I thought it was and still working on that but the devil has no doubt tried to destroy our happiness as I have actually had problems with both daughters. It is like weighing the lesser of the two evils and I have felt more danger from the daughter I am referring to in this forum. Fearing the unknown keeps me in knots-so as much as it is fearing about their own souls which I know they are accountable for-what they are involved in-thinking this man is going to harm us because again he is crazy looking and mean looking is something I just can not loose sight of- We did just have a home security system installed week before last mainly because of these so called people they are involved with. I know the one person my older daughter is around had texted my daughter I am speaking of in this forum-about how she hates how she hears about me raising my voice at them-she had never met me at the time and had no idea what was going on in our home-so this was information my older daughter had told her and no telling what lies and bad things my daughter said about us - so her "friend" got a one sided story which of course leaves me as the "bad guy." Of course my daughters would dare not tell what they have caused in our home. Needless to say, my older daughter is no longer living in our house either. We live in a beautiful neighborhood-a large community, pet friendly , nature trails and with a beautiful 3 acre park-always some function going on and the food trucks and movie nights will begin soon. My girls were looking so forward to this as we were. My husband being a heart patient and unable to physically do much without loosing his breath and me with my physical issues- were so elated this moment had come after raising our daughters and them graduating from high school. We never experienced anything like this during their teenage years or remotely close. I thought we made it through the most difficult time most parents experience trouble of any kind but I suppose they were saving these moments after high school. They have done everything they can to take this new chapter in our lives away from me and my husband and our family.</p><p></p><p>One more thing I forgot to touch on that is just another piece of this unsolved puzzle is she had brought some of her belongings from the car back into her room-well the day she brought him here-this past Friday-she had run up to her room when she first arrived and had moved her few things from the dresser and bed and hid them either under the bed or in her closet. Of course she did not tell me this nor did she say why. She was apparently going to show him or give him a tour of the house as she had been wanting to show our house off as she had texted me earlier in the week. Well I did not go upstairs before they came or even after until the next morning and also she did not tour our house with him as we both informed her we did not want him walking around our home. She asked me to give him a tour and I said absolutely not. It was more than enough him even coming into our home let alone sitting on my sofa. So I learned of her belongings "disappearing" the next morning. I have yet to question her as I know she does not want him thinking or knowing when she is supposedly coming home. I just do not understand this. After all and again, if the "only" lie she was telling and hiding was this crazy man from us, why is she lying to him and everyone else and why is she not coming home as she said told she would-- apparently only to us that is?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Cindy Marie, post: 709541, member: 21540"] I know this is so unhealthy for me and my husband. As much as this worries me and consumes me, I do have faith or certainly trying to maintain it. My head is filled with the scriptures and the voice of my mother repeating them such as "Cast your burden on the Lord, and He shall sustain you; He shall never permit righteous to be moved" Psalm 55:22. "For I, the Lord your God, will hold your right hand, saying to you, "Fear not, I will help you." Isaiah 41:13. My mother always said if you give the devil enough rope ,he will hang himself. She also repeated Sin will destroy itself. I know the devil is for sure testing my faith and he will not win. I know worrying is not going to change one thing either and while my faith is being tested-hence- my worries that I have shared with you all-it no doubt makes it difficult for remaining relaxed and not thinking about it. I have always loved the outdoors- flowers and gardening- and with my back issues and limited movement in my hips and legs-even before my total hip replacement- I was born with a partial hip socket- I lost a lot of muscle mass in my affected leg and can not lift it if I am sitting or lying down and it is painful to sit down as it is difficult to stand back up and now with the back issues, my other leg is almost in the same shape and of course the nerve damage in my dominant arm and hand makes it hard to hold or grip, the ruptures I have endured in my neck as well as my lumbar and surgery-2 level fusion through the front of my neck has limited mobility looking down or bending but my gait is overall fine and to see me you would not know what I have physically been through- I am only 46 years old. But I never once questioned God as I am alive and breathing and I am so grateful to be here and know my work on earth is not done. I am so blessed and thankful for all that I have. Yard work has always been my therapy but a little more challenging these days. We have a much smaller yard than our old house. My girls were looking so forward to us moving into a new house after 19 years and no more than we got our feet into the door, the problems have escalated and tried to destroy us. I was so thankful we finally moved too and my focus was decorating our new home and we virtually started over with new furnishings- a new beginning or so I thought it was and still working on that but the devil has no doubt tried to destroy our happiness as I have actually had problems with both daughters. It is like weighing the lesser of the two evils and I have felt more danger from the daughter I am referring to in this forum. Fearing the unknown keeps me in knots-so as much as it is fearing about their own souls which I know they are accountable for-what they are involved in-thinking this man is going to harm us because again he is crazy looking and mean looking is something I just can not loose sight of- We did just have a home security system installed week before last mainly because of these so called people they are involved with. I know the one person my older daughter is around had texted my daughter I am speaking of in this forum-about how she hates how she hears about me raising my voice at them-she had never met me at the time and had no idea what was going on in our home-so this was information my older daughter had told her and no telling what lies and bad things my daughter said about us - so her "friend" got a one sided story which of course leaves me as the "bad guy." Of course my daughters would dare not tell what they have caused in our home. Needless to say, my older daughter is no longer living in our house either. We live in a beautiful neighborhood-a large community, pet friendly , nature trails and with a beautiful 3 acre park-always some function going on and the food trucks and movie nights will begin soon. My girls were looking so forward to this as we were. My husband being a heart patient and unable to physically do much without loosing his breath and me with my physical issues- were so elated this moment had come after raising our daughters and them graduating from high school. We never experienced anything like this during their teenage years or remotely close. I thought we made it through the most difficult time most parents experience trouble of any kind but I suppose they were saving these moments after high school. They have done everything they can to take this new chapter in our lives away from me and my husband and our family. One more thing I forgot to touch on that is just another piece of this unsolved puzzle is she had brought some of her belongings from the car back into her room-well the day she brought him here-this past Friday-she had run up to her room when she first arrived and had moved her few things from the dresser and bed and hid them either under the bed or in her closet. Of course she did not tell me this nor did she say why. She was apparently going to show him or give him a tour of the house as she had been wanting to show our house off as she had texted me earlier in the week. Well I did not go upstairs before they came or even after until the next morning and also she did not tour our house with him as we both informed her we did not want him walking around our home. She asked me to give him a tour and I said absolutely not. It was more than enough him even coming into our home let alone sitting on my sofa. So I learned of her belongings "disappearing" the next morning. I have yet to question her as I know she does not want him thinking or knowing when she is supposedly coming home. I just do not understand this. After all and again, if the "only" lie she was telling and hiding was this crazy man from us, why is she lying to him and everyone else and why is she not coming home as she said told she would-- apparently only to us that is? [/QUOTE]
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