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Now that I kicked my 18 year old daughter out, where do I go from here?
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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 718498" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Cindy: </p><p></p><p>Happy belated birthday! At least you had some peaceful time with your hubby.</p><p></p><p>I have to admit, drug use ran through my mind also because often those using do not want to spend their own money on food. And the fact that she is acting so "off" compared to how you've always known her but I also recognize that you would probably know it if she were on some type of drug by being around her.</p><p></p><p>I always have a sixth sense for this with our son. If it doesn't "make sense" I know drugs are involved. </p><p></p><p>I agree with SWOT that I would not let her boyfriend visit either. I am not sure that is what your therapist was going to say but it is okay to disagree with them too.</p><p></p><p>Do focus on yourself and your husband more and your life. Try not to have her on your mind every second. This is where healthy boundaries and detachment come into play. Your therapist should be able to help you with that. Your daughter should NOT be the focus of your life. It's not healthy for anyone.</p><p></p><p>She has chosen this life for herself, yet she wants you to pay for the stuff she doesn't want to pay for. Life doesn't work that way. I do agree paying for her doctor because that is for you to feel better but I'd really have to draw a line in the sand someplace close to that.</p><p></p><p>She can fix this if she wants to. She's being passive aggressive with you right now. Put yourself first.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 718498, member: 15032"] Cindy: Happy belated birthday! At least you had some peaceful time with your hubby. I have to admit, drug use ran through my mind also because often those using do not want to spend their own money on food. And the fact that she is acting so "off" compared to how you've always known her but I also recognize that you would probably know it if she were on some type of drug by being around her. I always have a sixth sense for this with our son. If it doesn't "make sense" I know drugs are involved. I agree with SWOT that I would not let her boyfriend visit either. I am not sure that is what your therapist was going to say but it is okay to disagree with them too. Do focus on yourself and your husband more and your life. Try not to have her on your mind every second. This is where healthy boundaries and detachment come into play. Your therapist should be able to help you with that. Your daughter should NOT be the focus of your life. It's not healthy for anyone. She has chosen this life for herself, yet she wants you to pay for the stuff she doesn't want to pay for. Life doesn't work that way. I do agree paying for her doctor because that is for you to feel better but I'd really have to draw a line in the sand someplace close to that. She can fix this if she wants to. She's being passive aggressive with you right now. Put yourself first. [/QUOTE]
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