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<blockquote data-quote="helpangel" data-source="post: 617209" data-attributes="member: 7170"><p>Scared straight & boot camp type stuff usually does more harm then good with these kids, I knew one kid who loved residential so much that after scared straight program decided prison was his end goal. Probably will get his wish was in county jail last I heard.</p><p></p><p>The thing that scares me the most in your son's case is his age, with sisters - I know a kid 15yo(who I believe was innocent) who was incarcerated in the state juvi system until the age of 21 and will be a registered sex offender till he dies based on lies of MI sister who wanted him out of the way.</p><p></p><p>Things can get really ugly especially when attachment disorders are involved. For right now you need to get it thru to him no physical aggression will be tolerated; actually until under control no physical contact (nobody touches nobody) its ok for mom to hug the 5yo good night but thats about it. </p><p></p><p>If anyone assaults anyone the police should be called and let them decide if going for psychiatric evaluation & inpatient or jail/juvi. At 15yo he needs to learn to control himself this isn't something you can do for him at this point. You and your other children deserve to feel safe and this cycle of abuse must end now, it's that nasty circle thing and you can't have a 13&5yo growing up seeing your relationship with son thinking this is how a parent is suppose to interact with child... the girls may grow up to abuse their kids thinking all the yelling & hitting is normal.</p><p></p><p>Regarding foster care if that's what is necessary for survival of rest of family ok, but absolutely DO NOT sign incorrigibility paperwork without talking to a lawyer experienced in this area it terminates your parental rights. In cases of adopted kids the system will crucify the parents for signing; can do it with bio kid but adopted the parents are facing legal consequences.</p><p></p><p>Good luck Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="helpangel, post: 617209, member: 7170"] Scared straight & boot camp type stuff usually does more harm then good with these kids, I knew one kid who loved residential so much that after scared straight program decided prison was his end goal. Probably will get his wish was in county jail last I heard. The thing that scares me the most in your son's case is his age, with sisters - I know a kid 15yo(who I believe was innocent) who was incarcerated in the state juvi system until the age of 21 and will be a registered sex offender till he dies based on lies of MI sister who wanted him out of the way. Things can get really ugly especially when attachment disorders are involved. For right now you need to get it thru to him no physical aggression will be tolerated; actually until under control no physical contact (nobody touches nobody) its ok for mom to hug the 5yo good night but thats about it. If anyone assaults anyone the police should be called and let them decide if going for psychiatric evaluation & inpatient or jail/juvi. At 15yo he needs to learn to control himself this isn't something you can do for him at this point. You and your other children deserve to feel safe and this cycle of abuse must end now, it's that nasty circle thing and you can't have a 13&5yo growing up seeing your relationship with son thinking this is how a parent is suppose to interact with child... the girls may grow up to abuse their kids thinking all the yelling & hitting is normal. Regarding foster care if that's what is necessary for survival of rest of family ok, but absolutely DO NOT sign incorrigibility paperwork without talking to a lawyer experienced in this area it terminates your parental rights. In cases of adopted kids the system will crucify the parents for signing; can do it with bio kid but adopted the parents are facing legal consequences. Good luck Nancy [/QUOTE]
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