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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 617241" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hmmmm. I could be wrong, but it sounds like you may be in a power struggle with your child. Maybe you feel he SHOULD obey you because he is your child and you are going to do all you can to make that happen.</p><p>Unfortunately our differently wired kids do not do well with that sort of inflexible parenting and I agree with helpangel that boot camps and Scared Straight stuff doesn't work well for our kids. They do not believe, like other kids might, that the worst will happen to them. Or maybe some of them have it go in one ear and out the other and put it out of t heir minds. Ditto for military school. They usually get thrown out.</p><p></p><p>On the other hand, this child, no matter what his age, has no bright to hit you, especially so hard that it bruises. For your own safety, if you feel threaten3ed, call the cops and do it right after it happens so you have a record of it. This may not make your son all better, but nothing quick will do that anyway and YOU need to be safe. I would do a no-nonsense to any physical violence in your house. He hits you...you call the cops. If he spends some time in juvie, he does.</p><p>He should not be in your house while he is violent because somebody could get badly hurt, emphasis on his sister.</p><p>He may be imitating your ex, not a good role model. It doesn't matter why at this point. I assume he is big and strong. It's time for you to take care of yourself and your daughter and do a zero tolerance on the violence. If he does that to a stranger, he will end up in jail.Have you considered a residential treatment center, long term? Maybe a long stay back with Dad? I'm guessing Dad is at least strong enough to ward off his blows, even if he is a terrible role model. Your son does not seem to be learning from your example right now.</p><p>I am sorry this is happening and hope you find the strength that you know is inside of you to do the right thing, whatever you feel it is. Don't be a victim!!! Hugs to you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 617241, member: 1550"] Hmmmm. I could be wrong, but it sounds like you may be in a power struggle with your child. Maybe you feel he SHOULD obey you because he is your child and you are going to do all you can to make that happen. Unfortunately our differently wired kids do not do well with that sort of inflexible parenting and I agree with helpangel that boot camps and Scared Straight stuff doesn't work well for our kids. They do not believe, like other kids might, that the worst will happen to them. Or maybe some of them have it go in one ear and out the other and put it out of t heir minds. Ditto for military school. They usually get thrown out. On the other hand, this child, no matter what his age, has no bright to hit you, especially so hard that it bruises. For your own safety, if you feel threaten3ed, call the cops and do it right after it happens so you have a record of it. This may not make your son all better, but nothing quick will do that anyway and YOU need to be safe. I would do a no-nonsense to any physical violence in your house. He hits you...you call the cops. If he spends some time in juvie, he does. He should not be in your house while he is violent because somebody could get badly hurt, emphasis on his sister. He may be imitating your ex, not a good role model. It doesn't matter why at this point. I assume he is big and strong. It's time for you to take care of yourself and your daughter and do a zero tolerance on the violence. If he does that to a stranger, he will end up in jail.Have you considered a residential treatment center, long term? Maybe a long stay back with Dad? I'm guessing Dad is at least strong enough to ward off his blows, even if he is a terrible role model. Your son does not seem to be learning from your example right now. I am sorry this is happening and hope you find the strength that you know is inside of you to do the right thing, whatever you feel it is. Don't be a victim!!! Hugs to you. [/QUOTE]
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