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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 713851" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am sorry you are going through this. I think it is past time to formally evict him. I know that sounds harsh, but it is my opinion. He needs the shock, and the lesson that you cannot continue to treat people horribly and expect them to take care of you. </p><p></p><p>He is abusing you in an absolutely awful way and you are completely accepting and allowing it. You are even paying for it. This has to stop.</p><p></p><p>Do you own the car he drives or is it in his name? If it is in your name, don't just take the plates off of it. He won't care and will drive it anyway. I promise he will. You will end up having to pay for those tickets and bills after it is impounded when he is pulled over for driving it without the plates. Go ahead and remove the spark plug wires or the fuses. Either one will make it not run. Depending on the way the engine is set up, it should be easy to get to one or the other. </p><p></p><p>If the car is in his name, you cannot take the plates off. You don't own the car. You can report him for driving without insurance if you stop paying for it. But that is IF you are able to stop paying for it. In some states, if an adult lives with you, you cannot stop paying for their policy once you have started. My state has some twisty regulations about this. </p><p></p><p>I think you and your husband need to discuss what you are willing to do to get your son out of your house and your bank account. He may be homeless, but clearly he is capable of getting a job. He is making CHOICES and he needs to learn to live with the results of those choices. You are actually stunting his growth by not allowing that. It is high time he is kicked out of the nest FOR HIS OWN GOOD and for your own good.</p><p></p><p>If you won't do this for his good, or for your good, do it for your daughter. I was the good girl who had to deal with the difficult brother. It was an awful way to grow up. Don't do that to your 3 year old. Let her grow up without him in the house. </p><p></p><p>You might have to pay first month's rent on a flop for your son. Just to get him OUT. It might be worth it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 713851, member: 1233"] I am sorry you are going through this. I think it is past time to formally evict him. I know that sounds harsh, but it is my opinion. He needs the shock, and the lesson that you cannot continue to treat people horribly and expect them to take care of you. He is abusing you in an absolutely awful way and you are completely accepting and allowing it. You are even paying for it. This has to stop. Do you own the car he drives or is it in his name? If it is in your name, don't just take the plates off of it. He won't care and will drive it anyway. I promise he will. You will end up having to pay for those tickets and bills after it is impounded when he is pulled over for driving it without the plates. Go ahead and remove the spark plug wires or the fuses. Either one will make it not run. Depending on the way the engine is set up, it should be easy to get to one or the other. If the car is in his name, you cannot take the plates off. You don't own the car. You can report him for driving without insurance if you stop paying for it. But that is IF you are able to stop paying for it. In some states, if an adult lives with you, you cannot stop paying for their policy once you have started. My state has some twisty regulations about this. I think you and your husband need to discuss what you are willing to do to get your son out of your house and your bank account. He may be homeless, but clearly he is capable of getting a job. He is making CHOICES and he needs to learn to live with the results of those choices. You are actually stunting his growth by not allowing that. It is high time he is kicked out of the nest FOR HIS OWN GOOD and for your own good. If you won't do this for his good, or for your good, do it for your daughter. I was the good girl who had to deal with the difficult brother. It was an awful way to grow up. Don't do that to your 3 year old. Let her grow up without him in the house. You might have to pay first month's rent on a flop for your son. Just to get him OUT. It might be worth it. [/QUOTE]
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