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<blockquote data-quote="keista" data-source="post: 436694" data-attributes="member: 11965"><p>There has got to be a stronger word than LIVID for this - I just can't think of it.</p><p></p><p>There is only one thing I can suggest as advice - do everything you can to separating your finances. Assuming you don't live in a community property state, this can help you in the long run. No, not if you split, but if bankruptcy needs to be filed, if he passes before you and has racked up a debtload with ANT. Even if you don't work, it can be done. Checking accounts should be his, hers and house. If you don't work (or he doesn't work), the money going into his and hers should be equal - logic being that the person not working is working in the home, and should be "paid" for that work. If you both work, the money going into house should be a proportionate % of your incomes going in to pay household expenses, then you each keep the balance of your $ Close out joint credit cards, and get your name off his cards, and his name off your cards. </p><p></p><p>Once you are financially separated, but both contributing proportionately equally to the house, you are then each free to help your kids financially how you see fit, and how you can afford it because that assistance will have to come out of the his or hers accounts.</p><p></p><p>And, if husband doesn't like this arrangement? Oh well, you didn't get a say in the cosign thing, so why should he get a say in this?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="keista, post: 436694, member: 11965"] There has got to be a stronger word than LIVID for this - I just can't think of it. There is only one thing I can suggest as advice - do everything you can to separating your finances. Assuming you don't live in a community property state, this can help you in the long run. No, not if you split, but if bankruptcy needs to be filed, if he passes before you and has racked up a debtload with ANT. Even if you don't work, it can be done. Checking accounts should be his, hers and house. If you don't work (or he doesn't work), the money going into his and hers should be equal - logic being that the person not working is working in the home, and should be "paid" for that work. If you both work, the money going into house should be a proportionate % of your incomes going in to pay household expenses, then you each keep the balance of your $ Close out joint credit cards, and get your name off his cards, and his name off your cards. Once you are financially separated, but both contributing proportionately equally to the house, you are then each free to help your kids financially how you see fit, and how you can afford it because that assistance will have to come out of the his or hers accounts. And, if husband doesn't like this arrangement? Oh well, you didn't get a say in the cosign thing, so why should he get a say in this? [/QUOTE]
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