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<blockquote data-quote="Estherfromjerusalem" data-source="post: 161867" data-attributes="member: 77"><p>Hello Punkparents,</p><p></p><p>Well, as you can see from all the replies, you are certainly not alone. My difficult child (now aged 21) started encopresis at the age of four and a half, and stopped some time between 13 and 14. I used to be what this site jokingly calls the "resident expert on encopresis," but quite honestly I don't think I have anything to add to all the good information you have received from everyone else here.</p><p></p><p>Our extended family has a history of sensitive digestive tracts, from chronic constipation (my father) to Crohns disease (my sister) to just sensitive (me), so I suspect that my difficult child also falls in that category. But the actual cause of encopresis is constipation -- what causes that constipation is another matter, but it leads to the condition called encopresis.</p><p></p><p>I learned the hard way, because I had no help and no support until he was about 10 years old, when I discovered the internet at work. Our local pediatrician had said to just ignore it and it would pass on its own, and how wrong she was! To this day I can't forgive her. You have to get your child to a pediatric gastroenterologist just to make sure that there is no physical problem causing the encopresis, such as Hirshprungs disease, which is very rare.</p><p></p><p>It was a support group on the internet that taught me that it was totally NOT his fault, that he truly had no control, and that anger would not help at all, but would have the opposite effect. So I learned to love him and accept him the way he was. That was so important, because he was being rejected at school, in the neighborhood, and even by close family members, because he always stank (he could soil himself 10 times a day quite easily). I learned to have a really good supply of pants and underpants. Underpants were always white cotton so that they could be soaked in bleach solution -- that was how I coped with the laundry.</p><p></p><p>I made a load of mistakes along the way, but here we are today, he is clean. He still has a tendency to constipation -- only goes about twice a week, if he goes three times then that is a really good week. He still is super duper extra sensitive about it, and has to have a shower immediately after "going" -- but that's fine with me. He is quite fastidious about cleanliness and clothes now, and I do an awful lot of laundry for him.</p><p></p><p>I often wonder, what came first, the ODD or the encopresis? I'm still not sure!!</p><p></p><p>What I do know is that when I do my arithmetic, since my difficult child is the youngest of eight children, and the oldest is 17 years older than him, I was dealing with poop problems for 30 years more or less non-stop!</p><p></p><p>Anyway, I just wanted to say hello and welcome, that you have come to a really great place, and to give you a hug.</p><p></p><p>Love, Esther</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Estherfromjerusalem, post: 161867, member: 77"] Hello Punkparents, Well, as you can see from all the replies, you are certainly not alone. My difficult child (now aged 21) started encopresis at the age of four and a half, and stopped some time between 13 and 14. I used to be what this site jokingly calls the "resident expert on encopresis," but quite honestly I don't think I have anything to add to all the good information you have received from everyone else here. Our extended family has a history of sensitive digestive tracts, from chronic constipation (my father) to Crohns disease (my sister) to just sensitive (me), so I suspect that my difficult child also falls in that category. But the actual cause of encopresis is constipation -- what causes that constipation is another matter, but it leads to the condition called encopresis. I learned the hard way, because I had no help and no support until he was about 10 years old, when I discovered the internet at work. Our local pediatrician had said to just ignore it and it would pass on its own, and how wrong she was! To this day I can't forgive her. You have to get your child to a pediatric gastroenterologist just to make sure that there is no physical problem causing the encopresis, such as Hirshprungs disease, which is very rare. It was a support group on the internet that taught me that it was totally NOT his fault, that he truly had no control, and that anger would not help at all, but would have the opposite effect. So I learned to love him and accept him the way he was. That was so important, because he was being rejected at school, in the neighborhood, and even by close family members, because he always stank (he could soil himself 10 times a day quite easily). I learned to have a really good supply of pants and underpants. Underpants were always white cotton so that they could be soaked in bleach solution -- that was how I coped with the laundry. I made a load of mistakes along the way, but here we are today, he is clean. He still has a tendency to constipation -- only goes about twice a week, if he goes three times then that is a really good week. He still is super duper extra sensitive about it, and has to have a shower immediately after "going" -- but that's fine with me. He is quite fastidious about cleanliness and clothes now, and I do an awful lot of laundry for him. I often wonder, what came first, the ODD or the encopresis? I'm still not sure!! What I do know is that when I do my arithmetic, since my difficult child is the youngest of eight children, and the oldest is 17 years older than him, I was dealing with poop problems for 30 years more or less non-stop! Anyway, I just wanted to say hello and welcome, that you have come to a really great place, and to give you a hug. Love, Esther [/QUOTE]
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