Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
ODD or just being stubborn?
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="OpenWindow" data-source="post: 82974" data-attributes="member: 45"><p>Sounds like my difficult child exactly, only no matter how many times I tell him he does not take a shower. Consequences don't matter most times, even when I take away computer. Once we got cable, taking TV away worked for a month or two, now not so much. </p><p></p><p>I find that rewards work better than consequences (although I still do give consequences hoping this will sink in as he gets older). If difficult child keeps his room somewhat clean, he gets the TV in his room. If he does his chore, he gets to watch TV, and he gets to choose which channel. This weekend we did a major clean up in his room. I knew he wouldn't cooperate so I told him we would connect the cable to the TV in his room once his room was clean, if he helped. It worked most of the day but in late afternoon, he stopped helping. I offered to take him to Baskin Robbins for ice cream once we were done. He went back in and finished up with me (about an hour) and then we went for ice cream. </p><p></p><p>For things like hitting or threatening his sister or brother, he has to leave the room. It is a consequence and he often refuses to leave. I either force him to leave (pushing him down the hall) or I tell him he has to be gone from the room for 5 minutes, then he can come back. If he doesn't go, I add time to it. </p><p></p><p>The book Explosive Child helped me get a better handle on how difficult child thinks and how to pick my battles with him. We gave up the shower/bathtime fights a long time ago, because the threats and hitting are our number 1 priority. </p><p></p><p>Linda</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="OpenWindow, post: 82974, member: 45"] Sounds like my difficult child exactly, only no matter how many times I tell him he does not take a shower. Consequences don't matter most times, even when I take away computer. Once we got cable, taking TV away worked for a month or two, now not so much. I find that rewards work better than consequences (although I still do give consequences hoping this will sink in as he gets older). If difficult child keeps his room somewhat clean, he gets the TV in his room. If he does his chore, he gets to watch TV, and he gets to choose which channel. This weekend we did a major clean up in his room. I knew he wouldn't cooperate so I told him we would connect the cable to the TV in his room once his room was clean, if he helped. It worked most of the day but in late afternoon, he stopped helping. I offered to take him to Baskin Robbins for ice cream once we were done. He went back in and finished up with me (about an hour) and then we went for ice cream. For things like hitting or threatening his sister or brother, he has to leave the room. It is a consequence and he often refuses to leave. I either force him to leave (pushing him down the hall) or I tell him he has to be gone from the room for 5 minutes, then he can come back. If he doesn't go, I add time to it. The book Explosive Child helped me get a better handle on how difficult child thinks and how to pick my battles with him. We gave up the shower/bathtime fights a long time ago, because the threats and hitting are our number 1 priority. Linda [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
ODD or just being stubborn?
Top