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Oh boy, decided to hash it out with difficult child and it is NOT going well. I walked away+
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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 500065"><p>I think I've been played. And the thought is making me want to barf.</p><p></p><p>Spent yesterday driving difficult child from post office to bank to bank -paying off his past due rent, credit cards, line of credit etc. To the tune of about $2300. </p><p></p><p>On the way into bank 1... "Why do I have to close the account?" Can't I just keep it? I explained that closing it is the only way to prevent his landlord from continuing to debit it for his rent - which is creating past due & NSF fees up the ying yang.</p><p></p><p>On the way to bank 2... Me: "When do you want to drive up to college town to clean out your apt?" difficult child "I don't want to. I am still planning to go up there to visit and I don't want to have to haul everything home only to bring it back to my new apt next year" ME: "we have to terminate your lease, so your stuff needs to be out - this way you are protected just in case one of your roommates burns the place down or something"</p><p></p><p>Arrive at bank 2 "Why do I have to close the accounts? I want to keep them open..." Me (again) "Because I am not paying off your 1100 credit card debt, $500 overdraft and NSF fees and leaving the accounts open. Plus, your credit history will show the accounts were closed by consumer which will look better in the long run."</p><p></p><p>difficult child and I have a nice lunch. I am starting to feel slightly hopeful.</p><p></p><p>I didn't realize that by paying off both banks by personal check, I was delaying the closing of all accounts until the checks clear. And even without the lag, I am guessing there is nothing to stop him from opening a new account and visa and running them up again.</p><p></p><p>H to difficult child last night: "Community college classes start tomorrow - you will need to get registered so you can start ASAP and not lose too much ground. " Goes over like a lead balloon. Apparently, he spent 2 hours convincing difficult child that going to local CC would be a good thing. difficult child thinks it is beneath him. They make plans for H to take difficult child to register at 1:00 today.</p><p></p><p>12:00 Today, difficult child tells H he is NOT registering at CC. H tries to talk him into it again and fails. difficult child plans to go back to college town and go to the CC in college town (like we believe that!) while living the "college life" in his apartment - the apartment on which I just paid all of the back rent. H reminds difficult child that he just failed all his classes at college - and obviously "the college life in own apt" hasn't worked out for him. difficult child tells h it's OUR fault because we put so much financial pressure on him and he is not going to live at home and go to community college here. H tells him to think about it and the time has just kept passing.</p><p></p><p>I am going to throw up. First I need to stop pay on the rent check. Thank God I didn't get the cashier's check that difficult child told me they would want.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 500065"] I think I've been played. And the thought is making me want to barf. Spent yesterday driving difficult child from post office to bank to bank -paying off his past due rent, credit cards, line of credit etc. To the tune of about $2300. On the way into bank 1... "Why do I have to close the account?" Can't I just keep it? I explained that closing it is the only way to prevent his landlord from continuing to debit it for his rent - which is creating past due & NSF fees up the ying yang. On the way to bank 2... Me: "When do you want to drive up to college town to clean out your apt?" difficult child "I don't want to. I am still planning to go up there to visit and I don't want to have to haul everything home only to bring it back to my new apt next year" ME: "we have to terminate your lease, so your stuff needs to be out - this way you are protected just in case one of your roommates burns the place down or something" Arrive at bank 2 "Why do I have to close the accounts? I want to keep them open..." Me (again) "Because I am not paying off your 1100 credit card debt, $500 overdraft and NSF fees and leaving the accounts open. Plus, your credit history will show the accounts were closed by consumer which will look better in the long run." difficult child and I have a nice lunch. I am starting to feel slightly hopeful. I didn't realize that by paying off both banks by personal check, I was delaying the closing of all accounts until the checks clear. And even without the lag, I am guessing there is nothing to stop him from opening a new account and visa and running them up again. H to difficult child last night: "Community college classes start tomorrow - you will need to get registered so you can start ASAP and not lose too much ground. " Goes over like a lead balloon. Apparently, he spent 2 hours convincing difficult child that going to local CC would be a good thing. difficult child thinks it is beneath him. They make plans for H to take difficult child to register at 1:00 today. 12:00 Today, difficult child tells H he is NOT registering at CC. H tries to talk him into it again and fails. difficult child plans to go back to college town and go to the CC in college town (like we believe that!) while living the "college life" in his apartment - the apartment on which I just paid all of the back rent. H reminds difficult child that he just failed all his classes at college - and obviously "the college life in own apt" hasn't worked out for him. difficult child tells h it's OUR fault because we put so much financial pressure on him and he is not going to live at home and go to community college here. H tells him to think about it and the time has just kept passing. I am going to throw up. First I need to stop pay on the rent check. Thank God I didn't get the cashier's check that difficult child told me they would want. [/QUOTE]
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