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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 611360" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>First of all, I am SO very sorry that you had to experience your brother in law's behavior. I do NOT think that the statement that he is a poor fool who got inappropriate while drunk. It is NOT a drunken mistake, it is actually a sexual assault. It is not rape, but it IS something that a stranger could have him prosecuted for if there were witnesses, and it is NOT OKAY EVER. What you have eaten, ingested, drunk, or if you are wearing purple paisley with lime green polka dots. It just isn't okay. </p><p></p><p>You do NOT need to apologize and ask people not to judge because you had 2 drinks. You are an adult, and it is a personal choice, period. </p><p></p><p>I can see why you did not want to discuss it. Whether you feel you should be able to forgive it and brush it off or not, you don't need to explain that someone touched you inappropriately without your consent. I think your husband's reaction of not wanting anything more to do with brother in law is totally appropriate. It would be one thing if you had responded in an encouraging way to his advances, but I know you didn't, and you know you didn't, and your husband and brother in law know you didn't. That is what makes brother in law's actions unacceptable. </p><p></p><p>other people have seen brother in law be this inappropriate. Your husband likely has a very long history of yoru brother in law doing ugly things to him and violating you was the last straw for your husband. I realize that most women would write off the drunken grope as something done while drunk that he didn't mean. But it seems doubtful that you are the only woman that this man has done this too. his comments to you and his inappropriate behavior has absolutely NOTHING to do with your looks, your sex appeal, his sexual urges, his attraction to you, or his alcohol consumption. Your brother in law's actions have EVERYTHING to do with power, control, RAGE, and utter disdain for you as a person, as his sister in law, or for your husband and his relationship with you. Your brother in law is seriously disturbed. </p><p></p><p>I am so sorry you have to experience the drama from the relatives. It is wrong of them, and none of their business. Please don't let yourself be alone with your brother in law. esp if alcohol is involved. When drinking he can behave as badly as he wants and it is all forgiven "because he was drunk". </p><p></p><p>Congrats on the wedding! It is lovely that you like the girl. I hope you enjoy the wedding and that they have a long and happy life together.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 611360, member: 1233"] First of all, I am SO very sorry that you had to experience your brother in law's behavior. I do NOT think that the statement that he is a poor fool who got inappropriate while drunk. It is NOT a drunken mistake, it is actually a sexual assault. It is not rape, but it IS something that a stranger could have him prosecuted for if there were witnesses, and it is NOT OKAY EVER. What you have eaten, ingested, drunk, or if you are wearing purple paisley with lime green polka dots. It just isn't okay. You do NOT need to apologize and ask people not to judge because you had 2 drinks. You are an adult, and it is a personal choice, period. I can see why you did not want to discuss it. Whether you feel you should be able to forgive it and brush it off or not, you don't need to explain that someone touched you inappropriately without your consent. I think your husband's reaction of not wanting anything more to do with brother in law is totally appropriate. It would be one thing if you had responded in an encouraging way to his advances, but I know you didn't, and you know you didn't, and your husband and brother in law know you didn't. That is what makes brother in law's actions unacceptable. other people have seen brother in law be this inappropriate. Your husband likely has a very long history of yoru brother in law doing ugly things to him and violating you was the last straw for your husband. I realize that most women would write off the drunken grope as something done while drunk that he didn't mean. But it seems doubtful that you are the only woman that this man has done this too. his comments to you and his inappropriate behavior has absolutely NOTHING to do with your looks, your sex appeal, his sexual urges, his attraction to you, or his alcohol consumption. Your brother in law's actions have EVERYTHING to do with power, control, RAGE, and utter disdain for you as a person, as his sister in law, or for your husband and his relationship with you. Your brother in law is seriously disturbed. I am so sorry you have to experience the drama from the relatives. It is wrong of them, and none of their business. Please don't let yourself be alone with your brother in law. esp if alcohol is involved. When drinking he can behave as badly as he wants and it is all forgiven "because he was drunk". Congrats on the wedding! It is lovely that you like the girl. I hope you enjoy the wedding and that they have a long and happy life together. [/QUOTE]
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