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Oh heck...Buck has been rushed to Chapel Hill.
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 605776" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Put the money you and husband have saved up into an account he cannot touch. Then tell him that you simply do not have any funds to contribute to a burial and that the state will have to pay for it. This is the result of spending your life as an abusive manipulative mean person who couldn't bother to think of anyone but himself and how he could hurt and/or scam someone. From what you have said about him, Buck likely enjoyed hurting others even more than scamming and freeloading off of them. </p><p></p><p>Not contributing to his burial does not make you a bad person in any way, shape or form. I would contact that church of his, the one he scammed, and tell them that the family simply does not have any money to bury him and he will be taken care of by the state (or county or whomever deals with this). If they want to bury him or whatever, they are free to do so. Lots of times if a church has been helping someone and they die the church may choose to have a service or whatever.</p><p></p><p>Around here the paupers do not get buried. They are cremated and the ashes are given to the family or else buried or put somewhere. Cremation is much cheaper and doesn't take up a lot of land. </p><p></p><p>Let husband know that you won't support spending a penny on this because Buck was told to take care of it and he CHOSE not to. As you discussed this with him and he flat out REFUSED to even consider taking care of this, then he CHOSE to have the arrangements made by the state. husband may be more comfortable with the idea of the state taking care of Buck's body if it is presented as Buck CHOOSING to have his body and any funeral taken care of by the state rather than to think of it as the family refusing to bury him or cremate him or whatever. Point out that when it was discussed with Buck, he flat out refused to do anything about it which shows that he truly did not care what happened to his remains. That may make it easier for husband to not take care of the funeral expenses. </p><p></p><p>While I would not wish sickness on anyone, it does seem like natural and logical consequences to the life that Buck chose. He could have made different choices anywhere along the way and had things turn out far differently. in my opinion this is simply what he CHOSE and to interfere in that would be silly.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 605776, member: 1233"] Put the money you and husband have saved up into an account he cannot touch. Then tell him that you simply do not have any funds to contribute to a burial and that the state will have to pay for it. This is the result of spending your life as an abusive manipulative mean person who couldn't bother to think of anyone but himself and how he could hurt and/or scam someone. From what you have said about him, Buck likely enjoyed hurting others even more than scamming and freeloading off of them. Not contributing to his burial does not make you a bad person in any way, shape or form. I would contact that church of his, the one he scammed, and tell them that the family simply does not have any money to bury him and he will be taken care of by the state (or county or whomever deals with this). If they want to bury him or whatever, they are free to do so. Lots of times if a church has been helping someone and they die the church may choose to have a service or whatever. Around here the paupers do not get buried. They are cremated and the ashes are given to the family or else buried or put somewhere. Cremation is much cheaper and doesn't take up a lot of land. Let husband know that you won't support spending a penny on this because Buck was told to take care of it and he CHOSE not to. As you discussed this with him and he flat out REFUSED to even consider taking care of this, then he CHOSE to have the arrangements made by the state. husband may be more comfortable with the idea of the state taking care of Buck's body if it is presented as Buck CHOOSING to have his body and any funeral taken care of by the state rather than to think of it as the family refusing to bury him or cremate him or whatever. Point out that when it was discussed with Buck, he flat out refused to do anything about it which shows that he truly did not care what happened to his remains. That may make it easier for husband to not take care of the funeral expenses. While I would not wish sickness on anyone, it does seem like natural and logical consequences to the life that Buck chose. He could have made different choices anywhere along the way and had things turn out far differently. in my opinion this is simply what he CHOSE and to interfere in that would be silly. [/QUOTE]
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