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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 500280" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>OH gosh, I have lived a very very eerily similar scene many times especially over the last few months. Including the head pounding and he does it with his hands /fists and also into a wall/door jam corner. </p><p></p><p>But for the last almost two weeks it is much reduced. There have been blow ups and comparatively speaking, some more minor aggressive moments, but not that intense thank heaven.</p><p></p><p>Mine says, you are talking to me like a baby... or I'm not a baby. I never get into that... I just say, I am simply telling you a direction like all parents tell their kids directions. (though at the moment they are acting like toddlers it is hard for me to hold my tongue!)</p><p></p><p>Sounds like he had a plan of what he wanted to do and even more than not getting his way, it may be hard for him to be able to change his idea of how the time should be going. What he had in his mind that you would say, etc. When people tell me he just wants his way I have to say I really do know the difference. I can get him out of it when it i just that he wants something and I am saying no. These moments are like he absolutely had it in his mind how something was going to happen, no matter if it was realistic or not... and any change in that plan (can you say rigid thinker??) makes my kid go nuts. Just really needs support finding another plan and that is usually how we get out of it. Sometimes I have to wait for that intense part where he is screamming, yelling, etc. to calm down. </p><p></p><p>For Q the other time he does it is when he is boxed in a corner... he as lost priveleges, the world is over, everything is awful and there is no immediate thing to look forward to. (not reality I realize but this is his frame of mind from what he is saying and what I can figure out by how we recover)... Sometimes I have to do a "do-over" and just wipe the whole thing clean.... Ask him if he can try it again and all the consequences are gone and if he can talk it out and problem solve we can work it out. He will ask... is this a trick??? but I remind him I have NEVer tricked him on that and so he does it. </p><p></p><p></p><p>It is exhausting.. dont know if any of it would work for you but... just sharing because I can understand the feeling. by the way, I have told MANY professionals about the head banging and screaming etc.... no one ever once suggested he needs to go to the hospital or be declared a danger or anything.... I get the worry though, truth is you could beg them for help and even with those symptoms they will tell you to do x y z at home I bet.... sigh.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 500280, member: 12886"] OH gosh, I have lived a very very eerily similar scene many times especially over the last few months. Including the head pounding and he does it with his hands /fists and also into a wall/door jam corner. But for the last almost two weeks it is much reduced. There have been blow ups and comparatively speaking, some more minor aggressive moments, but not that intense thank heaven. Mine says, you are talking to me like a baby... or I'm not a baby. I never get into that... I just say, I am simply telling you a direction like all parents tell their kids directions. (though at the moment they are acting like toddlers it is hard for me to hold my tongue!) Sounds like he had a plan of what he wanted to do and even more than not getting his way, it may be hard for him to be able to change his idea of how the time should be going. What he had in his mind that you would say, etc. When people tell me he just wants his way I have to say I really do know the difference. I can get him out of it when it i just that he wants something and I am saying no. These moments are like he absolutely had it in his mind how something was going to happen, no matter if it was realistic or not... and any change in that plan (can you say rigid thinker??) makes my kid go nuts. Just really needs support finding another plan and that is usually how we get out of it. Sometimes I have to wait for that intense part where he is screamming, yelling, etc. to calm down. For Q the other time he does it is when he is boxed in a corner... he as lost priveleges, the world is over, everything is awful and there is no immediate thing to look forward to. (not reality I realize but this is his frame of mind from what he is saying and what I can figure out by how we recover)... Sometimes I have to do a "do-over" and just wipe the whole thing clean.... Ask him if he can try it again and all the consequences are gone and if he can talk it out and problem solve we can work it out. He will ask... is this a trick??? but I remind him I have NEVer tricked him on that and so he does it. It is exhausting.. dont know if any of it would work for you but... just sharing because I can understand the feeling. by the way, I have told MANY professionals about the head banging and screaming etc.... no one ever once suggested he needs to go to the hospital or be declared a danger or anything.... I get the worry though, truth is you could beg them for help and even with those symptoms they will tell you to do x y z at home I bet.... sigh. [/QUOTE]
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