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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 376012" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>HOUND... </p><p> </p><p>You ....are a huge heart wrapped in a warm electric blanket, topped off with - if I ever hit the lottery I will save the entire world and keep nothing for myself except maybe a new car, and a little (xx) for me. yeah I know you. So let me read between the lines here Grandchildren or not. </p><p> </p><p>Do I think this girl has matured any? Personally? No. Do I think she's hit rock bottom? Nope. Do I (standing on the sidelines) having been completely homeless, without ANYONE to give me a single thing, slept in a stolen van, with a child, no job, and no food wondered how in the world I got like this and ate NOTHING while I gave what I did get to Dude? yes. Potato flake soup would have been fantastic. 4 days in a row of nothing makes you dumber than dirt. Did I call my Mom and tell her how bad it was? NEVER. Did I call her and say "I dont' need a hand out, I just.........and fill in my sad little story?" NEVER! Why? Because I got myself INTO it, WITH my son, I would get myself OUT of it WITH my son. My Mother was well aware of my circumstances TWELVE YEARS AFTER - NOT ONCE would I ever care for her, love her, respect her - and call her or write her and worry her about my messed up life. </p><p> </p><p>When my life was like your K's? I made calls home and I was WONDERFUL. LIFE WAS GREAT.......and then I bit my lip, got off the phone and cried my eyes out. THAT is what being adult to me is. THAT is what caring about YOU (to me) would be. Not this little game of - we had to sell our lap top to eat. We had to do this to that....The litlle carrots she dangles in front of you about how she isn't allowed to be with him in the shelter. Well - she's apparently with him period because she COULD go to a womans Domestic Violence shelter - get the kids help, a bed, and herself straightened out - but no-----------she CHOOSES to stay WITH HIM. Even if ........IF they are separated. Okay so that takes time to see - but you can bet your sweet eared corn that if you allow her to come ANYWHERE near you ----------IT WILL turn your life upside down, he WILL follow her, there WILL be excuses just like there are now.......and this WILL ABSOLUTELY MOST ASSUREDLY be the SAME EXACT SCENARIO only in a town near you or IN YOUR HOUSE because NOW you've invited them there. And the kids......oh look - Grandma is close as XXX........here grandma uproot your life, stop your job, come get these kids now we're fighting again, or I'm going back to him or HE NEEDS ME -------or even better I need him can you keep the kids. There WILL BE some B.S. excuse - and you're going to get to raise two more kids. </p><p> </p><p>My thought is simple - If you want to raise those kids? Do it. Tell them to put them on a bus - and go get them. Ask for guardianship papers - and raise their kids. But the BS that THESE two are going to bring? Tell them to STAY where they are and keep the BS with them. </p><p> </p><p>I'm not sorry for them - they had a choice, make it every day and every single time K is in the picture your life is a whirling dirvish of WHAT SHOULD I DO. It's like me with Should Dude move back home? UGH. I feel for you I do. But I swear - this time I've just got to be the friend that says NO. Not this time. Tell her - nope. You aint buying it. I mean what was it last time - She was dying from some rare disease? And now? </p><p> </p><p>She's methodical I'll give her that - her plan is just a 3 or 4 year plan - not like most difficult child's that act instant. She's a real plotter. </p><p> </p><p>Hugs - I'm sorry for the kids but that's all, because I've been where she is - and I would have NEVER done to you what she has.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 376012, member: 4964"] HOUND... You ....are a huge heart wrapped in a warm electric blanket, topped off with - if I ever hit the lottery I will save the entire world and keep nothing for myself except maybe a new car, and a little (xx) for me. yeah I know you. So let me read between the lines here Grandchildren or not. Do I think this girl has matured any? Personally? No. Do I think she's hit rock bottom? Nope. Do I (standing on the sidelines) having been completely homeless, without ANYONE to give me a single thing, slept in a stolen van, with a child, no job, and no food wondered how in the world I got like this and ate NOTHING while I gave what I did get to Dude? yes. Potato flake soup would have been fantastic. 4 days in a row of nothing makes you dumber than dirt. Did I call my Mom and tell her how bad it was? NEVER. Did I call her and say "I dont' need a hand out, I just.........and fill in my sad little story?" NEVER! Why? Because I got myself INTO it, WITH my son, I would get myself OUT of it WITH my son. My Mother was well aware of my circumstances TWELVE YEARS AFTER - NOT ONCE would I ever care for her, love her, respect her - and call her or write her and worry her about my messed up life. When my life was like your K's? I made calls home and I was WONDERFUL. LIFE WAS GREAT.......and then I bit my lip, got off the phone and cried my eyes out. THAT is what being adult to me is. THAT is what caring about YOU (to me) would be. Not this little game of - we had to sell our lap top to eat. We had to do this to that....The litlle carrots she dangles in front of you about how she isn't allowed to be with him in the shelter. Well - she's apparently with him period because she COULD go to a womans Domestic Violence shelter - get the kids help, a bed, and herself straightened out - but no-----------she CHOOSES to stay WITH HIM. Even if ........IF they are separated. Okay so that takes time to see - but you can bet your sweet eared corn that if you allow her to come ANYWHERE near you ----------IT WILL turn your life upside down, he WILL follow her, there WILL be excuses just like there are now.......and this WILL ABSOLUTELY MOST ASSUREDLY be the SAME EXACT SCENARIO only in a town near you or IN YOUR HOUSE because NOW you've invited them there. And the kids......oh look - Grandma is close as XXX........here grandma uproot your life, stop your job, come get these kids now we're fighting again, or I'm going back to him or HE NEEDS ME -------or even better I need him can you keep the kids. There WILL BE some B.S. excuse - and you're going to get to raise two more kids. My thought is simple - If you want to raise those kids? Do it. Tell them to put them on a bus - and go get them. Ask for guardianship papers - and raise their kids. But the BS that THESE two are going to bring? Tell them to STAY where they are and keep the BS with them. I'm not sorry for them - they had a choice, make it every day and every single time K is in the picture your life is a whirling dirvish of WHAT SHOULD I DO. It's like me with Should Dude move back home? UGH. I feel for you I do. But I swear - this time I've just got to be the friend that says NO. Not this time. Tell her - nope. You aint buying it. I mean what was it last time - She was dying from some rare disease? And now? She's methodical I'll give her that - her plan is just a 3 or 4 year plan - not like most difficult child's that act instant. She's a real plotter. Hugs - I'm sorry for the kids but that's all, because I've been where she is - and I would have NEVER done to you what she has. [/QUOTE]
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