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<blockquote data-quote="ScentofCedar" data-source="post: 162811" data-attributes="member: 3353"><p>When I cannot stop a thought pattern Stands, it helps me to remind myself that I just thought that same thought. You will be surprised ~ it's like our brains get into the habit of thinking the same, exact thoughts over and over again.</p><p></p><p>Almost like a mantra we comfort ourselves with.</p><p></p><p>It sometimes seemed that if I worried enough, the bad thing would not happen.</p><p></p><p>It wasn't until I was able to admit that the worry I felt was anger-based ~ and that the anger was at my son ~ that I was able to view the current chaotic event with a sense of perspective.</p><p></p><p>I know you are frightened right now, Stands.</p><p></p><p>Light a candle for your son.</p><p></p><p>Ask for peace, and for strength, when you pray.</p><p></p><p>I would not want to see my son sentenced either, Stands.</p><p></p><p>But what I might do is ask whether there was any way, any way at all, that I could see my son after his sentencing.</p><p></p><p>That is the part that matters most to you anyway, Stands ~ helping your son be strong enough to face whatever is coming.</p><p></p><p>Try that, Stands.</p><p></p><p>If they say no, write your son and tell him what you are trying to do. Tell him you won't be at the hearing, but that you will be near by ~and that you will see him afterwards, if there is any way possible for you to do that.</p><p></p><p>No one should be forced to watch their child being sentenced.</p><p></p><p>That's barbaric.</p><p></p><p>Work to see him afterwards for just a minute or two, Stands ~ you never know until you ask and ask and ask.</p><p></p><p>And if they will not let you see him afterwards, write a letter to your paper about it.</p><p></p><p>Maybe you can help the next mother who finds herself in the position you are in, today.</p><p></p><p>Know that I am holding you and yours in my thoughts and prayers, Susan.</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ScentofCedar, post: 162811, member: 3353"] When I cannot stop a thought pattern Stands, it helps me to remind myself that I just thought that same thought. You will be surprised ~ it's like our brains get into the habit of thinking the same, exact thoughts over and over again. Almost like a mantra we comfort ourselves with. It sometimes seemed that if I worried enough, the bad thing would not happen. It wasn't until I was able to admit that the worry I felt was anger-based ~ and that the anger was at my son ~ that I was able to view the current chaotic event with a sense of perspective. I know you are frightened right now, Stands. Light a candle for your son. Ask for peace, and for strength, when you pray. I would not want to see my son sentenced either, Stands. But what I might do is ask whether there was any way, any way at all, that I could see my son after his sentencing. That is the part that matters most to you anyway, Stands ~ helping your son be strong enough to face whatever is coming. Try that, Stands. If they say no, write your son and tell him what you are trying to do. Tell him you won't be at the hearing, but that you will be near by ~and that you will see him afterwards, if there is any way possible for you to do that. No one should be forced to watch their child being sentenced. That's barbaric. Work to see him afterwards for just a minute or two, Stands ~ you never know until you ask and ask and ask. And if they will not let you see him afterwards, write a letter to your paper about it. Maybe you can help the next mother who finds herself in the position you are in, today. Know that I am holding you and yours in my thoughts and prayers, Susan. Barbara [/QUOTE]
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