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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 406590" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>M2OS</p><p> </p><p>You know - Something you said makes me want to tell you......DO NOT. And I'll tell you why. I'm an eternal optimist. So not isn't an option most days but in this case as a friend I'm going to tell you - keep the rhino skin, double up on that and do not teach your parents anything. At this point? Honey I think it would ONLY further serve to frustrate you like nobody's business. Instead you are going to have to figure out a way to 'back door' this thing. And I don't mean be sneaky and underhanded. I mean be sneaky and underhanded with a loving intent - big difference. Why? Well sneaky and underhanded with malice is just mean. But when done with loving intent and alson done to outwit a combined 160 years or so AND done as to solve grief on so many levels? It's not really sneaky or underhanded. It changes to 'best intentions' for all concerned. It takes a little more study - but well worth the arguments that you will avoid. And you've had so much practice already with difficult child you are sure to be a wiz at it. </p><p> </p><p>See if you can locate some books or on line material on effective communication. It will help. It's a backdoor strategy to getting all parties to agree on things that are best for them when they don't know it - and making THEM believe it was their idea all along. - Less stress for you, for your Mom, for your Dad.....save on Advil....lol. </p><p> </p><p>Takes a bit of practice....and it does not come natural to most people. But it works. I think this approach would work better with your Gma.....and do I think you got played? Well a lot of times they say elderly improve with a little attention and love - this could have been the case or Gma may just be a difficult child that you are going to have to out wit. - If it is Game on-----get the effective communication thing going and stay one step ahead. And get busy on that public assistance for your Mom and see what is out there. I'm thinking again - Day care for Granny. Activities DO keep you young and we certainly need to stay as active as we can for Gpa----right? </p><p> </p><p>ISh-----I don't envy you at all. </p><p> </p><p>Oh I know - maybe your SON.......can start taking care of Gma? OR go back to rehab? </p><p> </p><p>Choices......choices.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 406590, member: 4964"] M2OS You know - Something you said makes me want to tell you......DO NOT. And I'll tell you why. I'm an eternal optimist. So not isn't an option most days but in this case as a friend I'm going to tell you - keep the rhino skin, double up on that and do not teach your parents anything. At this point? Honey I think it would ONLY further serve to frustrate you like nobody's business. Instead you are going to have to figure out a way to 'back door' this thing. And I don't mean be sneaky and underhanded. I mean be sneaky and underhanded with a loving intent - big difference. Why? Well sneaky and underhanded with malice is just mean. But when done with loving intent and alson done to outwit a combined 160 years or so AND done as to solve grief on so many levels? It's not really sneaky or underhanded. It changes to 'best intentions' for all concerned. It takes a little more study - but well worth the arguments that you will avoid. And you've had so much practice already with difficult child you are sure to be a wiz at it. See if you can locate some books or on line material on effective communication. It will help. It's a backdoor strategy to getting all parties to agree on things that are best for them when they don't know it - and making THEM believe it was their idea all along. - Less stress for you, for your Mom, for your Dad.....save on Advil....lol. Takes a bit of practice....and it does not come natural to most people. But it works. I think this approach would work better with your Gma.....and do I think you got played? Well a lot of times they say elderly improve with a little attention and love - this could have been the case or Gma may just be a difficult child that you are going to have to out wit. - If it is Game on-----get the effective communication thing going and stay one step ahead. And get busy on that public assistance for your Mom and see what is out there. I'm thinking again - Day care for Granny. Activities DO keep you young and we certainly need to stay as active as we can for Gpa----right? ISh-----I don't envy you at all. Oh I know - maybe your SON.......can start taking care of Gma? OR go back to rehab? Choices......choices. [/QUOTE]
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