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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 535865" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>I'm not totally sure if easy child was horrified more about a thought of a baby sibling or of an idea about what making the baby tends to require. He is a smart boy and almost 16. I'm sure he has figured out already that it is possible that me and his dad have a sex live, he just doesn't want to think about it and is still young enough to think it would be so very embarrassing if his friends would know his parents have sex life (having a baby kind of gives that away.) I think he probably at least half seriously thinks sex is something young and pretty people do and people stop their sex lives when they are old. And in this point 'old' for him is probably thirty. We have not felt like correcting that misconception. I'm sure the time will do that for us. Of course it can take time. difficult child was recently at home and in TV there was some documentary about couple who had been married 60 years, and they said something about sex. difficult child blurted something about a man that old still being able to 'get it up', went very quiet, looked to the direction his grandparents live (they live near us) and looked absolutely horrified. I think it had probably never before really occurred to him that not only his parents are likely to have sex but also his grandparents. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/surprise.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":surprise:" title="surprise :surprise:" data-shortname=":surprise:" />Poor, poor, boy!</p><p></p><p>Our boys are not stupid, they have all the information they need and some more (we have told them the basics, given them books to read about these matters, our schools give very through sexual education and of course sex is constantly talked about in media), they just don't want to think about those aspects of it. And it is amazing what you can ignore, when you really try. And I have to say, that I too do really try to ignore an idea of my in-laws having sex <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/Graemlins/rofl.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":rofl:" title="rofl :rofl:" data-shortname=":rofl:" /></p><p></p><p>I did consider (very shortly) having one more baby when I was turning 40. After easy child was born we also briefly thought about third child (to be honest we had kind of hoped easy child would had been a girl) and decided we were very happy having just two boys and would not want more children. But I think it is very natural to think about it again, when time to have more kids is starting to run out. Even when you have decided you have the kids you wanted, it is a little wistful feeling when the option of having more kids starts to go away. Then I remembered difficult child's first year and very quickly buried the thought. Luckily I remember very little about that year, I was so tired (difficult child just screamed and screamed, didn't sleep, needed to be carried all the time, wasn't happy with someone touching him and neither when left alone, nursed very often and then threw it up. And just when he started to have a little bit easier time after half a year he fell ill and was hospitalized for almost two months and we had to worry if he would even survive and sit in the hospital with the baby who seriously hated being there.) While easy child was a happy baby I certainly wasn't ready to take a risk now at older age. I know there are many older moms here and those who are raising their grandchildren and I'm amazed how you do it. I really feel I wouldn't have stamina to start all this over again.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 535865, member: 14557"] I'm not totally sure if easy child was horrified more about a thought of a baby sibling or of an idea about what making the baby tends to require. He is a smart boy and almost 16. I'm sure he has figured out already that it is possible that me and his dad have a sex live, he just doesn't want to think about it and is still young enough to think it would be so very embarrassing if his friends would know his parents have sex life (having a baby kind of gives that away.) I think he probably at least half seriously thinks sex is something young and pretty people do and people stop their sex lives when they are old. And in this point 'old' for him is probably thirty. We have not felt like correcting that misconception. I'm sure the time will do that for us. Of course it can take time. difficult child was recently at home and in TV there was some documentary about couple who had been married 60 years, and they said something about sex. difficult child blurted something about a man that old still being able to 'get it up', went very quiet, looked to the direction his grandparents live (they live near us) and looked absolutely horrified. I think it had probably never before really occurred to him that not only his parents are likely to have sex but also his grandparents. :surprise:Poor, poor, boy! Our boys are not stupid, they have all the information they need and some more (we have told them the basics, given them books to read about these matters, our schools give very through sexual education and of course sex is constantly talked about in media), they just don't want to think about those aspects of it. And it is amazing what you can ignore, when you really try. And I have to say, that I too do really try to ignore an idea of my in-laws having sex :rofl: I did consider (very shortly) having one more baby when I was turning 40. After easy child was born we also briefly thought about third child (to be honest we had kind of hoped easy child would had been a girl) and decided we were very happy having just two boys and would not want more children. But I think it is very natural to think about it again, when time to have more kids is starting to run out. Even when you have decided you have the kids you wanted, it is a little wistful feeling when the option of having more kids starts to go away. Then I remembered difficult child's first year and very quickly buried the thought. Luckily I remember very little about that year, I was so tired (difficult child just screamed and screamed, didn't sleep, needed to be carried all the time, wasn't happy with someone touching him and neither when left alone, nursed very often and then threw it up. And just when he started to have a little bit easier time after half a year he fell ill and was hospitalized for almost two months and we had to worry if he would even survive and sit in the hospital with the baby who seriously hated being there.) While easy child was a happy baby I certainly wasn't ready to take a risk now at older age. I know there are many older moms here and those who are raising their grandchildren and I'm amazed how you do it. I really feel I wouldn't have stamina to start all this over again. [/QUOTE]
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