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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 567968"><p>I am glad you saw her and that you shared hugs and love. I think the hardest part is trying to maintain the balance between having them in your life without crossing the enabling boundary. And as parents, I think we get very cautious that our unconditional love for them can translate into acceptance/approval of their choices. I'm not sure how we can actively disengage from their bad choices while trying to stay connected. But I do know in my heart that it's worth a shot. </p><p></p><p>"I'm here, I love you, I hate what you're doing with your life and I won't support it or enable it, (and for g-d's sake, could you PLEASE come to your senses!!!) but I also won't give up on you and I will always love you 110% ...even if it has to be from a distance"</p><p></p><p>What's the alternative? Walking away? Or the opposite-pretend its all rosy? I have to believe that the tough work of giving unconditional love WITHOUT enabling will make a difference someday. Even if only in our own lives. </p><p></p><p>That's why we're here, I think. It's the common bond among the SA moms. Loving our children and hating their lifestyles. And looking for balance. Tough love is toughest on us. {{hugs}}</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 567968"] I am glad you saw her and that you shared hugs and love. I think the hardest part is trying to maintain the balance between having them in your life without crossing the enabling boundary. And as parents, I think we get very cautious that our unconditional love for them can translate into acceptance/approval of their choices. I'm not sure how we can actively disengage from their bad choices while trying to stay connected. But I do know in my heart that it's worth a shot. "I'm here, I love you, I hate what you're doing with your life and I won't support it or enable it, (and for g-d's sake, could you PLEASE come to your senses!!!) but I also won't give up on you and I will always love you 110% ...even if it has to be from a distance" What's the alternative? Walking away? Or the opposite-pretend its all rosy? I have to believe that the tough work of giving unconditional love WITHOUT enabling will make a difference someday. Even if only in our own lives. That's why we're here, I think. It's the common bond among the SA moms. Loving our children and hating their lifestyles. And looking for balance. Tough love is toughest on us. {{hugs}} [/QUOTE]
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