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<blockquote data-quote="nvts" data-source="post: 146675" data-attributes="member: 3814"><p>Dear Steely,</p><p> </p><p>I'm sitting here writing this eating my baby oatmeal (wicked stomach virus...only thing I can keep down!) and thinking long and hard about what you've posted.</p><p> </p><p>Stop.</p><p> </p><p>You have got to get a grip on yourself and understand some clear facts about suicide.</p><p> </p><p>First: join a support group for people who have experienced a loved ones suicide. </p><p> </p><p><a href="http://dailystrength.org/c/Families-and-Friends-Affected-By-Suicide/support-group" target="_blank">http://dailystrength.org/c/Families-and-Friends-Affected-By-Suicide/support-group</a></p><p> </p><p>H. did what she did. It wasn't any "one" thing. But I will tell you this: although I've never met you, and I never met H, but as a woman about the same age with four sisters, there is NO WAY IN HELL that the two of you would have laughed and giggled and cried and supported and teased and joked as much as you two did if you were the cause of her action.</p><p> </p><p>There are many horrors to deal with when it comes to suicide. When there isn't a note, it's a HUGE nightmare because so many people blame themselves and never find an answer. </p><p> </p><p>But you also have to keep in mind (and I'm not saying this to hurt you): you were not the focus in her mind at the time that things played out, nor was her job, her dog, her parents, her friends, her boyfriend, her clubs, her hobbies, or anything else. Her focus was on herself and her private pain. The reason I call it private pain is that it was something that she wasn't willing to share. Period. </p><p> </p><p>No matter what you "did" as children (I'm so sorry that you have to list "Survivor of Sexual Abuse" on your personal resume - although it's something that I experienced too), I truly believe that it doesn't have any bearing on what's gone on here.</p><p> </p><p>You've got to get help from someone who's survived suicide. Only then are you going to believe that:</p><p> </p><p>1. you're not alone</p><p>2. you're stronger than you think</p><p>3. there are people who are willing to help</p><p> </p><p>I'm going to let you soak this in (and feel free to call me a big jerk if you want to! I don't mind!) and let us know if you tried the link.</p><p> </p><p>Now I have a question for you.</p><p> </p><p>How could YOU POSSIBLY be a failure if you lose a job because of a bunch of infantile, insecure, narcissistic, back-biting, childish, cry-baby, POS, namby-pamby, whining, maggots? </p><p> </p><p>I'm puzzled!</p><p> </p><p>Love ya kiddo!</p><p> </p><p>We're all here for you!</p><p> </p><p>Beth</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nvts, post: 146675, member: 3814"] Dear Steely, I'm sitting here writing this eating my baby oatmeal (wicked stomach virus...only thing I can keep down!) and thinking long and hard about what you've posted. Stop. You have got to get a grip on yourself and understand some clear facts about suicide. First: join a support group for people who have experienced a loved ones suicide. [URL]http://dailystrength.org/c/Families-and-Friends-Affected-By-Suicide/support-group[/URL] H. did what she did. It wasn't any "one" thing. But I will tell you this: although I've never met you, and I never met H, but as a woman about the same age with four sisters, there is NO WAY IN HELL that the two of you would have laughed and giggled and cried and supported and teased and joked as much as you two did if you were the cause of her action. There are many horrors to deal with when it comes to suicide. When there isn't a note, it's a HUGE nightmare because so many people blame themselves and never find an answer. But you also have to keep in mind (and I'm not saying this to hurt you): you were not the focus in her mind at the time that things played out, nor was her job, her dog, her parents, her friends, her boyfriend, her clubs, her hobbies, or anything else. Her focus was on herself and her private pain. The reason I call it private pain is that it was something that she wasn't willing to share. Period. No matter what you "did" as children (I'm so sorry that you have to list "Survivor of Sexual Abuse" on your personal resume - although it's something that I experienced too), I truly believe that it doesn't have any bearing on what's gone on here. You've got to get help from someone who's survived suicide. Only then are you going to believe that: 1. you're not alone 2. you're stronger than you think 3. there are people who are willing to help I'm going to let you soak this in (and feel free to call me a big jerk if you want to! I don't mind!) and let us know if you tried the link. Now I have a question for you. How could YOU POSSIBLY be a failure if you lose a job because of a bunch of infantile, insecure, narcissistic, back-biting, childish, cry-baby, POS, namby-pamby, whining, maggots? I'm puzzled! Love ya kiddo! We're all here for you! Beth [/QUOTE]
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