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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 413776" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Go for it. But even though Boss copied it to Company B's person, you should Bcc it, not CC. it also gives Boss enough rope to do something dirty like forward a copy of your email to Company B person with some nasty remark such as "She's trying to rip us off again". Especially if he only sends a snip and not the whole thing. "By your actions shall you be known".</p><p></p><p>As for asking for clarification in writing - put it as nicely as possible. Your suggested "since I seem to have difficulty keeping up with the changes in your direction, could you please put them in writing in the future and copy either T or (whomever)".</p><p></p><p>Try "In order to maximise efficiency, please give instructions in writing so I may expedite them as effectively as possible and as closely as possible to your intent. My aim is to do the job to the best of my ability according to your instructions. If you could also CC to T or [??] that would also ensure that others know exactly what it is I am supposed to be doing, in case I happen to get off track."</p><p></p><p>By implying that YOU need it because you just need a written memory jogger, it allows him to still feel superior (which he needs; and frankly, you need him to feel secure so he will not try to undermine you) but also telegraphs to other people that you have problems with hi but are actively and positively trying to come up with a practical, workable solution.</p><p></p><p>It's similar in some ays to the hassles I've had with this woman in our community, who THOUGHT she was the head of our combined churches committee when in fact nobody is the head, it's all teamwork. And she doesn't know how to be a team player. it's made a lot more work for us. I've sent emails worded firmly but gently, to all committee members, basically calling her on the problems she has claimed but I worded it in a way that supported her and made her look mistaken rather than idiotically wrong. "Perhaps M didn't realise, but it did not occur as she believed and expressed in her recent minutes. In reality, X happened instead, as attested to by Mr K. That should hopefully reassure M that her fears of divisiveness and chaos are unfounded, and we can get on with our united and valued efforts to organise our next combined event in the correct spirit of unity and harmony."</p><p></p><p>it's very hard to accuse such a statement of being an attack! Even though it actually was... although it was only an attack, if someone chose to interpret it that way and try to act accordingly, because everyone else WANTS to believe in unity and the only person left looking divisive, is M!</p><p></p><p>I love being a B***h... Babe In Total Control of Herself...</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 413776, member: 1991"] Go for it. But even though Boss copied it to Company B's person, you should Bcc it, not CC. it also gives Boss enough rope to do something dirty like forward a copy of your email to Company B person with some nasty remark such as "She's trying to rip us off again". Especially if he only sends a snip and not the whole thing. "By your actions shall you be known". As for asking for clarification in writing - put it as nicely as possible. Your suggested "since I seem to have difficulty keeping up with the changes in your direction, could you please put them in writing in the future and copy either T or (whomever)". Try "In order to maximise efficiency, please give instructions in writing so I may expedite them as effectively as possible and as closely as possible to your intent. My aim is to do the job to the best of my ability according to your instructions. If you could also CC to T or [??] that would also ensure that others know exactly what it is I am supposed to be doing, in case I happen to get off track." By implying that YOU need it because you just need a written memory jogger, it allows him to still feel superior (which he needs; and frankly, you need him to feel secure so he will not try to undermine you) but also telegraphs to other people that you have problems with hi but are actively and positively trying to come up with a practical, workable solution. It's similar in some ays to the hassles I've had with this woman in our community, who THOUGHT she was the head of our combined churches committee when in fact nobody is the head, it's all teamwork. And she doesn't know how to be a team player. it's made a lot more work for us. I've sent emails worded firmly but gently, to all committee members, basically calling her on the problems she has claimed but I worded it in a way that supported her and made her look mistaken rather than idiotically wrong. "Perhaps M didn't realise, but it did not occur as she believed and expressed in her recent minutes. In reality, X happened instead, as attested to by Mr K. That should hopefully reassure M that her fears of divisiveness and chaos are unfounded, and we can get on with our united and valued efforts to organise our next combined event in the correct spirit of unity and harmony." it's very hard to accuse such a statement of being an attack! Even though it actually was... although it was only an attack, if someone chose to interpret it that way and try to act accordingly, because everyone else WANTS to believe in unity and the only person left looking divisive, is M! I love being a B***h... Babe In Total Control of Herself... Marg [/QUOTE]
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