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<blockquote data-quote="Josie" data-source="post: 435333" data-attributes="member: 1792"><p>I only scanned the other answers so maybe this has been said already. I would let her come and go as needed. When she was home, I would expect her to follow the rules. If putting her dishes away or whatever causes her to need a cool off period, let her go and the other mom see it. I would think eventually, the other mom would notice that difficult child is always mad over common requests.</p><p></p><p>I wouldn't strip her room because I would want the other mom to see that my rules were reasonable and difficult child was the problem. If difficult child goes over there and says she has nothing but a mattress on the floor, what will the other mom think?</p><p></p><p>We know difficult child might deserve this, but to a parent of a typical kid, it might seem that you are the unreasonable one. I don't think that would help the situation at all. Plus, it will only inflame difficult child more and probably won't make her want to come home and follow the rules.</p><p></p><p>My daughter has been the unreasonable one in the past and I could see her running off in a defiant huff if she ever lets herself spiral down like that. I would be grateful if she had a place to go that she was safe.</p><p></p><p>Eventually, she will realize she can't always go storming off from a situation she doesn't like. It might be next month when the other mom has enough of her or it might be when she has an unpleasant boss some day.</p><p></p><p>I agree the best lessons come from letting them see what happens rather than me imposing something on them. It might seem like she is getting off easy but it is unlikely it will really turn out that way, in my opinion.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Josie, post: 435333, member: 1792"] I only scanned the other answers so maybe this has been said already. I would let her come and go as needed. When she was home, I would expect her to follow the rules. If putting her dishes away or whatever causes her to need a cool off period, let her go and the other mom see it. I would think eventually, the other mom would notice that difficult child is always mad over common requests. I wouldn't strip her room because I would want the other mom to see that my rules were reasonable and difficult child was the problem. If difficult child goes over there and says she has nothing but a mattress on the floor, what will the other mom think? We know difficult child might deserve this, but to a parent of a typical kid, it might seem that you are the unreasonable one. I don't think that would help the situation at all. Plus, it will only inflame difficult child more and probably won't make her want to come home and follow the rules. My daughter has been the unreasonable one in the past and I could see her running off in a defiant huff if she ever lets herself spiral down like that. I would be grateful if she had a place to go that she was safe. Eventually, she will realize she can't always go storming off from a situation she doesn't like. It might be next month when the other mom has enough of her or it might be when she has an unpleasant boss some day. I agree the best lessons come from letting them see what happens rather than me imposing something on them. It might seem like she is getting off easy but it is unlikely it will really turn out that way, in my opinion. [/QUOTE]
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