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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 247001" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>She STILL needs to be booted out. Even disabled, she can get help from Social Services. Your parent does NOT need to deal with this. If I were you I would cancel the phone immediately, and any other services you pay for. If the car is owned by you (titled in your name), take the keys. Then put a steering wheel lock on it just in case she keeps a set. IF she takes the car with-o permission - report it stolen.</p><p></p><p>She is taking advantage of you and everyone else. You CAN stop it, you just have to decide that you want to. </p><p></p><p>You CANNOT change her behavior. All you can do is change yours. She KNOWS what is expected, I am sure. You don't have to give her warnings about what you will do - she has probably had a LOT of those. Just go ahead and do them.</p><p></p><p>But whatever you do, please don't put your car across teh road like that again. It is very dangerous. What if she was changing the radio station and not looking, or on the phone, or whatever. What if she was just so mad that she chose to hit you? You also ran the risk of being hit by oncoming traffic in both directions. And drunk/stoned drivers are out every single night.</p><p></p><p>I strongly feel that you need to stop supporting her. She isn't doing her share, and continueing to take care of her like that just infantilizes her. She will rise to the level she wants to be at if she has to. But right now, why bother?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 247001, member: 1233"] She STILL needs to be booted out. Even disabled, she can get help from Social Services. Your parent does NOT need to deal with this. If I were you I would cancel the phone immediately, and any other services you pay for. If the car is owned by you (titled in your name), take the keys. Then put a steering wheel lock on it just in case she keeps a set. IF she takes the car with-o permission - report it stolen. She is taking advantage of you and everyone else. You CAN stop it, you just have to decide that you want to. You CANNOT change her behavior. All you can do is change yours. She KNOWS what is expected, I am sure. You don't have to give her warnings about what you will do - she has probably had a LOT of those. Just go ahead and do them. But whatever you do, please don't put your car across teh road like that again. It is very dangerous. What if she was changing the radio station and not looking, or on the phone, or whatever. What if she was just so mad that she chose to hit you? You also ran the risk of being hit by oncoming traffic in both directions. And drunk/stoned drivers are out every single night. I strongly feel that you need to stop supporting her. She isn't doing her share, and continueing to take care of her like that just infantilizes her. She will rise to the level she wants to be at if she has to. But right now, why bother? [/QUOTE]
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