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<blockquote data-quote="ihavehadit" data-source="post: 247187" data-attributes="member: 6881"><p>HI Everyone,</p><p> First off, to all: Our daughter is disable, she is not allowed to work and she has tried to work for more then a year, but with that she almost lost her leg for the second time. </p><p> But SSI is still fighting her and has been since 2002. There is another hearing in two months. So no she has no income, money coming in to her. So, would you let your daughter go hungry, maybe stink because she can't afford her deodorant and so forth. I am sorry, I can't believe you would allowed that to happen. Now for the car, it is her car. We do pay the insurance and all repairs. We went in the route before of not paying, having tags pulled and all. But then this kept me busy on the road. (We do live in the country, we are miles from Dr's and hospitals.) Well when she is not driving her car, I have to drive her 50 miles to her therapist and Physic Dr. That she goes to every week to every other week. Then I have to drive her to her bone Dr and other dr's that is not close by, and any where else she has to go. IT is cheaper on my car and easier on myself to pay her insurance and let her go on her way. (Oh yea, I am also my parents ride at most times.) </p><p> Yes, she drives us nuts, crazy and so forth. But sorry, I was raised to take care of our own, no matter what. That means you don't put your child on the street, with no means of support, you don't let your child strive to death, you don't turn your back on the helpless hoping harm comes to them. You take care of yours, it is a life long commitment. </p><p>But you can ask for ideas and help. But you would think, that others would understand and give you ideas of what you can do. But it surprised me to see a few thinks you should give up on your child, just because they are adults. </p><p>If that was so, I would not be where I am. My parents would not help us with food, and place to live for 3 months, and milk for our children, in our younger years. We did learn from that and for a long time now, we had not had to ask for help and now we help others. </p><p></p><p>Now for calling the police for what happen last night. Around here, the police would not do a thing. All they would do is, tell the daughter to go to her basement apartment and stay there. That is all they would do. We know this, we have call on her before. Also, my daughter was blocked on a town street, just a few blocks from the police. The girl that blocked her, also blocked our daughter in the car and then reached in and beat our daughter. The police was called and all they did was fine that girl and to this day it has gone on two years now, still have problems with her. But they said there is nothing they can do, unless she said to the daughter she was going to kill her. So calling the police over a argument, they wont do anything. </p><p></p><p>Now I would not had put my (parents car, mine is broke down) across the road if I was in a town, on a main road or any place like that. We were on a back road, against the river bank. I knew she be watching the road. Because it is cover with Deers mostly at night. Also I knew her car, she is the only one that goes through here with that type of car. Also she just left GP house, she has to go passed our place to get where she is going. So I did not put anyone in danger for what I did. </p><p></p><p>Well, anyway: Text messaging was taken off her phone at noon today. Her therapist was notified of what happen and also that message will end up in her Dr. hands come Monday. Also, she was informed the car insurance was not paid and will not be paid until she admits to what she did wrong and apologize to everyone. Also she was to clean her GP house top and bottom. All this has to be done before Monday. If not her tags will be pulled by the state by Wed. for no insurance. Also she was informed that if she don't start giving respect to her GP and Parents. She will be finding a way to get food, Items needed to live, medications and anything else that needs money to get. That the money tree has fall down. Not only that her phone was taken from her today until all this is done by Monday. If not she won't get it back, it will be put on suspension until she listen to her Elders, as she was taught to do. </p><p>She was also reminded that come Tuesday, she will be stuck in that house. She won't be able to leave or try to. So she just better start getting use to the rules. She will not be allowed to drive for three weeks. She won't even be able take a bath with out help, or cook her own meals. But right now she is stuck in a problem, she will suffer with out that help, unless she listen and do as is told to do. (she goes in to major surgery Wed Morning early. With what is being done, if she don't listen and stay laying down and so forth. Could cause her to bleed to death, even in her sleep. So she has to listen or die)</p><p>Yes, this is what the dr has told her and I and he did tell her it could kill her if she did not listen to his words. </p><p></p><p>She did calm down some this evening, after she was informed of everything of how it will be. But she only has two days to get the work done and apologize to everyone. </p><p>Oh yea, also a new rule. When money is spent on her, she is to pay it back with work around our house. She will only have 24 hours to pay us back. So, also this weekend, she is</p><p>to come to my house and clean the ferrets room from top to bottom and sweep my kitchen and mop it. That will be paying us back the 40 bucks for front end alignment, that we did yesterday. </p><p>So lets see if she makes it or not. She is not to have anything payed for until she does the work to earn the money for that car part, or her medications, anything. We feel, she can do what I told her to do, with </p><p>out problems. She can take her time and prop up her leg and all. </p><p> </p><p>Now, I asked for a friend that has same problems. I am sorry, I was told that I should give up on my child even if she is an adult. (oh yea, not only she has steel & screws in her body, her memory is not all here. She has no short memory hardly. She lost that part of her brain when she was almost killed 7 years ago) </p><p></p><p>Oh well, I am going to bed</p><p>Have a good night</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ihavehadit, post: 247187, member: 6881"] HI Everyone, First off, to all: Our daughter is disable, she is not allowed to work and she has tried to work for more then a year, but with that she almost lost her leg for the second time. But SSI is still fighting her and has been since 2002. There is another hearing in two months. So no she has no income, money coming in to her. So, would you let your daughter go hungry, maybe stink because she can't afford her deodorant and so forth. I am sorry, I can't believe you would allowed that to happen. Now for the car, it is her car. We do pay the insurance and all repairs. We went in the route before of not paying, having tags pulled and all. But then this kept me busy on the road. (We do live in the country, we are miles from Dr's and hospitals.) Well when she is not driving her car, I have to drive her 50 miles to her therapist and Physic Dr. That she goes to every week to every other week. Then I have to drive her to her bone Dr and other dr's that is not close by, and any where else she has to go. IT is cheaper on my car and easier on myself to pay her insurance and let her go on her way. (Oh yea, I am also my parents ride at most times.) Yes, she drives us nuts, crazy and so forth. But sorry, I was raised to take care of our own, no matter what. That means you don't put your child on the street, with no means of support, you don't let your child strive to death, you don't turn your back on the helpless hoping harm comes to them. You take care of yours, it is a life long commitment. But you can ask for ideas and help. But you would think, that others would understand and give you ideas of what you can do. But it surprised me to see a few thinks you should give up on your child, just because they are adults. If that was so, I would not be where I am. My parents would not help us with food, and place to live for 3 months, and milk for our children, in our younger years. We did learn from that and for a long time now, we had not had to ask for help and now we help others. Now for calling the police for what happen last night. Around here, the police would not do a thing. All they would do is, tell the daughter to go to her basement apartment and stay there. That is all they would do. We know this, we have call on her before. Also, my daughter was blocked on a town street, just a few blocks from the police. The girl that blocked her, also blocked our daughter in the car and then reached in and beat our daughter. The police was called and all they did was fine that girl and to this day it has gone on two years now, still have problems with her. But they said there is nothing they can do, unless she said to the daughter she was going to kill her. So calling the police over a argument, they wont do anything. Now I would not had put my (parents car, mine is broke down) across the road if I was in a town, on a main road or any place like that. We were on a back road, against the river bank. I knew she be watching the road. Because it is cover with Deers mostly at night. Also I knew her car, she is the only one that goes through here with that type of car. Also she just left GP house, she has to go passed our place to get where she is going. So I did not put anyone in danger for what I did. Well, anyway: Text messaging was taken off her phone at noon today. Her therapist was notified of what happen and also that message will end up in her Dr. hands come Monday. Also, she was informed the car insurance was not paid and will not be paid until she admits to what she did wrong and apologize to everyone. Also she was to clean her GP house top and bottom. All this has to be done before Monday. If not her tags will be pulled by the state by Wed. for no insurance. Also she was informed that if she don't start giving respect to her GP and Parents. She will be finding a way to get food, Items needed to live, medications and anything else that needs money to get. That the money tree has fall down. Not only that her phone was taken from her today until all this is done by Monday. If not she won't get it back, it will be put on suspension until she listen to her Elders, as she was taught to do. She was also reminded that come Tuesday, she will be stuck in that house. She won't be able to leave or try to. So she just better start getting use to the rules. She will not be allowed to drive for three weeks. She won't even be able take a bath with out help, or cook her own meals. But right now she is stuck in a problem, she will suffer with out that help, unless she listen and do as is told to do. (she goes in to major surgery Wed Morning early. With what is being done, if she don't listen and stay laying down and so forth. Could cause her to bleed to death, even in her sleep. So she has to listen or die) Yes, this is what the dr has told her and I and he did tell her it could kill her if she did not listen to his words. She did calm down some this evening, after she was informed of everything of how it will be. But she only has two days to get the work done and apologize to everyone. Oh yea, also a new rule. When money is spent on her, she is to pay it back with work around our house. She will only have 24 hours to pay us back. So, also this weekend, she is to come to my house and clean the ferrets room from top to bottom and sweep my kitchen and mop it. That will be paying us back the 40 bucks for front end alignment, that we did yesterday. So lets see if she makes it or not. She is not to have anything payed for until she does the work to earn the money for that car part, or her medications, anything. We feel, she can do what I told her to do, with out problems. She can take her time and prop up her leg and all. Now, I asked for a friend that has same problems. I am sorry, I was told that I should give up on my child even if she is an adult. (oh yea, not only she has steel & screws in her body, her memory is not all here. She has no short memory hardly. She lost that part of her brain when she was almost killed 7 years ago) Oh well, I am going to bed Have a good night [/QUOTE]
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