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<blockquote data-quote="CrazyinVA" data-source="post: 367259" data-attributes="member: 1157"><p>I guess I should update this to say she's found a 2nd job, finally .. another bartender position. Friday and Saturday nights at a downtown club. She ought to make enough money to pay rent between that and her other job. I need to remember, next time things seem so dire, that she tends to do this... she somehow figures it out, even if it's at the last minute (literally, sometimes). </p><p></p><p>I think my "panic" in these situations (which isn't really as panicky as it used to be) is part of my own PTSD, I've talked to my therapist about this before. Sometimes the memories of worse days, with her begging for help and calling me names and harrassing me by phone, come back so vividly, that I'm afraid it's about to start again. It hasn't gotten that bad in many years, however, at least as far as her behavior towards me (I think she does still treat her friends that way sometimes). She still calls me in tears sometimes, freaking out because she doesn't know what to do, but it's not in the same accusatory way that it used to be. It also helps that she *doesn't* have a car or license, becuase I know she won't just show up on my doorstep, too.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, crisis averted once again. But I'm still keeping the homeless intake number in my cellphone. She still has no idea where she's going at the end of July when her lease is up, whether or not she has 2 jobs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CrazyinVA, post: 367259, member: 1157"] I guess I should update this to say she's found a 2nd job, finally .. another bartender position. Friday and Saturday nights at a downtown club. She ought to make enough money to pay rent between that and her other job. I need to remember, next time things seem so dire, that she tends to do this... she somehow figures it out, even if it's at the last minute (literally, sometimes). I think my "panic" in these situations (which isn't really as panicky as it used to be) is part of my own PTSD, I've talked to my therapist about this before. Sometimes the memories of worse days, with her begging for help and calling me names and harrassing me by phone, come back so vividly, that I'm afraid it's about to start again. It hasn't gotten that bad in many years, however, at least as far as her behavior towards me (I think she does still treat her friends that way sometimes). She still calls me in tears sometimes, freaking out because she doesn't know what to do, but it's not in the same accusatory way that it used to be. It also helps that she *doesn't* have a car or license, becuase I know she won't just show up on my doorstep, too. Anyway, crisis averted once again. But I'm still keeping the homeless intake number in my cellphone. She still has no idea where she's going at the end of July when her lease is up, whether or not she has 2 jobs. [/QUOTE]
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