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Omg....Buck just walked in my house without knocking!
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<blockquote data-quote="katya02" data-source="post: 565497" data-attributes="member: 2884"><p>This issue with Buck turning up every single night to mooch dinner and hang out with Tony, ruining your alone time together? I think, from your post, that this has to be addressed asap. As in having a conversation with Tony in which you say 'too much' - Buck's daily visits are too much. Tell him what you've mentioned in other posts, how you're alone all day and look forward so much to Tony's company in the evening, your only adult company ... how you two need that time for YOU. Buck has made his choices, he's not in a committed relationship and there are reasons for that. His choice to live as he does does NOT give him the right to mooch off the two of you and ruin your only time together. </p><p></p><p>It's important to have this talk with Tony first and get him on board, because the next step is to lock that door - and when Buck shows up, you go and speak through the door without opening it, and say 'It's not a good time, Buck, you should have called ahead. Please don't come over without calling ahead in future. But I should tell you that weekday evenings aren't generally good times to come over.' Don't tell him when might be a good time, lol! Just be firm, don't explain or defend yourself. Just set the rule. He'll definitely get hold of Tony, which is why Tony has to be on board. Maybe, if Tony feels too guilty, set one night/week when Buck comes over for a specified time. Batten down the hatches and don't leave a single thing out, and follow him everywhere. Make him uncomfortable. Watch him like a hawk for stealing, and if he confronts you, tell him that every time he comes over, things disappear. That you've seen him walk out of the house with stuff he's stolen. Maybe he'll be offended enough to leave. </p><p></p><p>The issue here is Tony's support. I hope you can get it. But this coming over for dinner til bedtime thing every night? It has to stop. Good luck, sending hugs and best wishes.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="katya02, post: 565497, member: 2884"] This issue with Buck turning up every single night to mooch dinner and hang out with Tony, ruining your alone time together? I think, from your post, that this has to be addressed asap. As in having a conversation with Tony in which you say 'too much' - Buck's daily visits are too much. Tell him what you've mentioned in other posts, how you're alone all day and look forward so much to Tony's company in the evening, your only adult company ... how you two need that time for YOU. Buck has made his choices, he's not in a committed relationship and there are reasons for that. His choice to live as he does does NOT give him the right to mooch off the two of you and ruin your only time together. It's important to have this talk with Tony first and get him on board, because the next step is to lock that door - and when Buck shows up, you go and speak through the door without opening it, and say 'It's not a good time, Buck, you should have called ahead. Please don't come over without calling ahead in future. But I should tell you that weekday evenings aren't generally good times to come over.' Don't tell him when might be a good time, lol! Just be firm, don't explain or defend yourself. Just set the rule. He'll definitely get hold of Tony, which is why Tony has to be on board. Maybe, if Tony feels too guilty, set one night/week when Buck comes over for a specified time. Batten down the hatches and don't leave a single thing out, and follow him everywhere. Make him uncomfortable. Watch him like a hawk for stealing, and if he confronts you, tell him that every time he comes over, things disappear. That you've seen him walk out of the house with stuff he's stolen. Maybe he'll be offended enough to leave. The issue here is Tony's support. I hope you can get it. But this coming over for dinner til bedtime thing every night? It has to stop. Good luck, sending hugs and best wishes. [/QUOTE]
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