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<blockquote data-quote="roxy" data-source="post: 324360" data-attributes="member: 8571"><p>I haven't posted here in such a long time that I couldn't figure out my old login info. But this thread is one that I have some recent personal knowledge to share. I have a 24 yo female difficult child who is on SSI and SSDI. She was her own payee. She took up with an even bigger difficult child who turned out to be a heroin addict, and she began giving all her money to him. And I mean ALL her money. She then had nothing to eat, didn't pay any bills and began BEGGING from her neighbors. (OMG- how humiliating because I knew them). Anyway, I went down to SS office to try to get them to do something. I was told in no uncertain terms that it was none of my business, that she is an adult and if she wants to give her money away she is free to do so, and they dont' even have to talk to me. They were extremely rude. I told them that she is disabled, easily influenced, being taken advantage of, etc., and they repeated their position, which is that she is free to make bad decisions because she is an adult. The only thing I could do was to get a doctor to sign a form saying that she is financially incompetent, and then the would allow someone to be her payee. I asked her neurologist to sign the paper -- after he dithered for several weeks I finally broke thru his wall of bouncers (receptionists) and he REFUSED, saying that in his opinion since she is not MR, she has the right to make bad decisions. I doctor shopped, and finally found one who would sign the paper, and finally became her payee. That took about 3 months, and he stole about $5000 from her during that time, including hocking everything she owned, got her evicted, and he is now in jail, not because of anything he did to her, but because after I became her payee and he coudln't get money from her he committed an armed robbery. (Sorry this is so long, but it is just pouring out because it is so outrageous.) In any case, I suspect all your grandson will have to say is I gave it to her, and SS won't care. Oh--my daughter even lied and said that her check hadn't come when it had and they sent her another one that she handed over to him. I reported THAT to SS, and they said it wasn't a crime and they would just get it back later -- THEY DIDN"T CARE. So good luck with gettin difficult child MOM in trouble, but I doubt it will happen thru SS.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="roxy, post: 324360, member: 8571"] I haven't posted here in such a long time that I couldn't figure out my old login info. But this thread is one that I have some recent personal knowledge to share. I have a 24 yo female difficult child who is on SSI and SSDI. She was her own payee. She took up with an even bigger difficult child who turned out to be a heroin addict, and she began giving all her money to him. And I mean ALL her money. She then had nothing to eat, didn't pay any bills and began BEGGING from her neighbors. (OMG- how humiliating because I knew them). Anyway, I went down to SS office to try to get them to do something. I was told in no uncertain terms that it was none of my business, that she is an adult and if she wants to give her money away she is free to do so, and they dont' even have to talk to me. They were extremely rude. I told them that she is disabled, easily influenced, being taken advantage of, etc., and they repeated their position, which is that she is free to make bad decisions because she is an adult. The only thing I could do was to get a doctor to sign a form saying that she is financially incompetent, and then the would allow someone to be her payee. I asked her neurologist to sign the paper -- after he dithered for several weeks I finally broke thru his wall of bouncers (receptionists) and he REFUSED, saying that in his opinion since she is not MR, she has the right to make bad decisions. I doctor shopped, and finally found one who would sign the paper, and finally became her payee. That took about 3 months, and he stole about $5000 from her during that time, including hocking everything she owned, got her evicted, and he is now in jail, not because of anything he did to her, but because after I became her payee and he coudln't get money from her he committed an armed robbery. (Sorry this is so long, but it is just pouring out because it is so outrageous.) In any case, I suspect all your grandson will have to say is I gave it to her, and SS won't care. Oh--my daughter even lied and said that her check hadn't come when it had and they sent her another one that she handed over to him. I reported THAT to SS, and they said it wasn't a crime and they would just get it back later -- THEY DIDN"T CARE. So good luck with gettin difficult child MOM in trouble, but I doubt it will happen thru SS. [/QUOTE]
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