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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 123366" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Karen, </p><p></p><p>Detaching and taking care of yourself is the only thing you can do at this point. I think it's like a stove top. When your kids are ready to be born we say they are "in the oven". Then they are born and we put them on the front burners, so we can watch them closely. Then as they grow older we put them on the back burners and we simmer as they get through their sassy teen years. As the boiling lessens - we cover the pot and eventually remove them from the stove. </p><p></p><p>I guess it's up to each parent/chef to figure out when the child/recipe is done enough that we can walk away from them without guilt, knowing we've done the best we could. </p><p></p><p>We added all the right ingredients, we watched over them, and then we hope that they are done enough to present to the world. </p><p></p><p>THEN like any good cook - we sit back and relax, marvel at our masterpiece, or critique it, pick at it for further hopes of increased perfection and when we think we've gotten them just right - we look for our rewards and accolades. </p><p></p><p>I think when the creation self-arranges itself we somehow take offense. I'm trying to learn now that I've done my job - and while I know that my son lacks the capacity to be on his own - I keep pushing him towards a situation where he's able to not be on my burners. </p><p></p><p>I'm done cooking - I'm ready for take out. </p><p></p><p>Hugs</p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 123366, member: 4964"] Karen, Detaching and taking care of yourself is the only thing you can do at this point. I think it's like a stove top. When your kids are ready to be born we say they are "in the oven". Then they are born and we put them on the front burners, so we can watch them closely. Then as they grow older we put them on the back burners and we simmer as they get through their sassy teen years. As the boiling lessens - we cover the pot and eventually remove them from the stove. I guess it's up to each parent/chef to figure out when the child/recipe is done enough that we can walk away from them without guilt, knowing we've done the best we could. We added all the right ingredients, we watched over them, and then we hope that they are done enough to present to the world. THEN like any good cook - we sit back and relax, marvel at our masterpiece, or critique it, pick at it for further hopes of increased perfection and when we think we've gotten them just right - we look for our rewards and accolades. I think when the creation self-arranges itself we somehow take offense. I'm trying to learn now that I've done my job - and while I know that my son lacks the capacity to be on his own - I keep pushing him towards a situation where he's able to not be on my burners. I'm done cooking - I'm ready for take out. Hugs Star [/QUOTE]
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