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<blockquote data-quote="Mikey" data-source="post: 123415" data-attributes="member: 3579"><p>I get that not only from McWeedy, but - SURPRISE - also from my straight-laced, born-to-wear-the-uniform son Sarge. Most of Sarge's friends are inked-up Goth types, even though he could run for national president of the Young Conservatives based on his looks and his lifestyle. </p><p></p><p>Sarge says that I "just don't understand his friends", and that they're "no different from him", once you get past the ink, makeup, metal, purple hair and 15 pounds of chains on pants that would hang baggy on an opera diva.</p><p></p><p>And he was right. They're nice people, many are very talented in music, art, or the sciences. They just have a different self-image, and dress (or body-mod) to meet that image. I don't like how they look, how they dress, or some of their lifestyle choices. But they aren't criminals, they aren't drug users, and they're genuinely trying to make a good life for themselves <em>despite</em> the self-inflicted burden of not adhering to the social norms for appearances.</p><p></p><p>I don't understand it, but I came to realize that I didn't have to. I'm fat, I snore, I curse like a sailor and my daughter says I dress like a banker from the 70's who couldn't afford decent clothes. I wonder what I look and sound like to <em>her</em> friends. </p><p>But she loves me just the same, despite all that. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" /><img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" /><img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" /></p><p></p><p>So, in a way, Sarge has made me a little less worried about McW's "appearances" when he grows older. If straight-arrow Sarge and his similar friends can be accepting of people who are so different, that (to me) is a good sign. If all I had to worry about with WeedWhacker was his desire to tat and pierce, I wouldn't want the rest of the world ragging on him about it instead of judging him by his skills, his talent, and who he actually was as a person (same as if he were overweight, handicapped, disfigured by disease or accident, or any other superficial difference that had nothing to do with him as a person).</p><p></p><p>Mikey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mikey, post: 123415, member: 3579"] I get that not only from McWeedy, but - SURPRISE - also from my straight-laced, born-to-wear-the-uniform son Sarge. Most of Sarge's friends are inked-up Goth types, even though he could run for national president of the Young Conservatives based on his looks and his lifestyle. Sarge says that I "just don't understand his friends", and that they're "no different from him", once you get past the ink, makeup, metal, purple hair and 15 pounds of chains on pants that would hang baggy on an opera diva. And he was right. They're nice people, many are very talented in music, art, or the sciences. They just have a different self-image, and dress (or body-mod) to meet that image. I don't like how they look, how they dress, or some of their lifestyle choices. But they aren't criminals, they aren't drug users, and they're genuinely trying to make a good life for themselves [I]despite[/I] the self-inflicted burden of not adhering to the social norms for appearances. I don't understand it, but I came to realize that I didn't have to. I'm fat, I snore, I curse like a sailor and my daughter says I dress like a banker from the 70's who couldn't afford decent clothes. I wonder what I look and sound like to [I]her[/I] friends. But she loves me just the same, despite all that. :happy::happy::happy: So, in a way, Sarge has made me a little less worried about McW's "appearances" when he grows older. If straight-arrow Sarge and his similar friends can be accepting of people who are so different, that (to me) is a good sign. If all I had to worry about with WeedWhacker was his desire to tat and pierce, I wouldn't want the rest of the world ragging on him about it instead of judging him by his skills, his talent, and who he actually was as a person (same as if he were overweight, handicapped, disfigured by disease or accident, or any other superficial difference that had nothing to do with him as a person). Mikey [/QUOTE]
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