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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 240144" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Star, you do know me well. easy child and I've already decided between us that if push come to shove and there simply is no other choice, the grands will come here. It is who I am, and I couldn't turn away from them if they truely needed me.</p><p> </p><p>However, I've <strong>no</strong> desire whatsoever to raise my grandkids. Actually, although I love them greatly, the thought makes me shudder. I've just moved past that part of my life and I'm not <strong>at all</strong> anxious to return to mothering small children.</p><p> </p><p>Unfortunately K told me herself she is worried that M will become overwhlemed with parenting the children and unable to do it. Which is what started this whole direction of thinking. Because if the possibility is there, hiding my head in the sand about it won't solve anything.</p><p> </p><p>I'm trying to think of ways of helping M via long distance, and I'm simply not coming up with a whole lot. While we can be helpful with ordinary everyday things, there is so much we can't help him with like dealing with the school, doctors, ect. I have told K she needs to teach him, and get him active, in the kids daily lives as possible to make it easier for him if he needs to take over parenting. </p><p> </p><p>Obviously I need to get to know M better, and K and I need to talk more. Both ongoing processes. </p><p> </p><p>But I have one huge question. How does someone who reads at a first grade level function as an adult and parent in a reading world?? Just trying to grasp that has me shaking my head. Obviously he can get by to some extent, but I know that K handles the bulk of anything to do with reading.</p><p> </p><p>There is no way we can hope to help him in that area via long distance. And no, I am not even toying with the idea of bringing the family here. Huge mistake I don't ever want to repeat. Nor would it help them anyway. They have more services there to help them, limited as they might be.</p><p> </p><p>So, nope. No new additional rooms to the house. And Nichole won't be pushed out the door. (yet) lol And I swear on my honor as a big hearted person, with more than my fair share of maternal instinct, I do not have any desire to raise the grands unless I am absolutely forced by circumstance to do so. On that my heart and head are in total agreement.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 240144, member: 84"] Star, you do know me well. easy child and I've already decided between us that if push come to shove and there simply is no other choice, the grands will come here. It is who I am, and I couldn't turn away from them if they truely needed me. However, I've [B]no[/B] desire whatsoever to raise my grandkids. Actually, although I love them greatly, the thought makes me shudder. I've just moved past that part of my life and I'm not [B]at all[/B] anxious to return to mothering small children. Unfortunately K told me herself she is worried that M will become overwhlemed with parenting the children and unable to do it. Which is what started this whole direction of thinking. Because if the possibility is there, hiding my head in the sand about it won't solve anything. I'm trying to think of ways of helping M via long distance, and I'm simply not coming up with a whole lot. While we can be helpful with ordinary everyday things, there is so much we can't help him with like dealing with the school, doctors, ect. I have told K she needs to teach him, and get him active, in the kids daily lives as possible to make it easier for him if he needs to take over parenting. Obviously I need to get to know M better, and K and I need to talk more. Both ongoing processes. But I have one huge question. How does someone who reads at a first grade level function as an adult and parent in a reading world?? Just trying to grasp that has me shaking my head. Obviously he can get by to some extent, but I know that K handles the bulk of anything to do with reading. There is no way we can hope to help him in that area via long distance. And no, I am not even toying with the idea of bringing the family here. Huge mistake I don't ever want to repeat. Nor would it help them anyway. They have more services there to help them, limited as they might be. So, nope. No new additional rooms to the house. And Nichole won't be pushed out the door. (yet) lol And I swear on my honor as a big hearted person, with more than my fair share of maternal instinct, I do not have any desire to raise the grands unless I am absolutely forced by circumstance to do so. On that my heart and head are in total agreement. [/QUOTE]
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