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Once Again - All Mom's Fault (Just Shoot Me Now!)
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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 502191" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>DF - </p><p></p><p>There's two sides to this... so I'll give you both. </p><p></p><p>1) Myopia. The "professional" takes a look at "the" goal as though it is the "only" goal, and expects the rest of the world to move to make this goal happen - with NO sense of the big picture. This is still totally wrong, but I can see how someone with the wrong approach and/or not enough experience could fall into this part of the trap.</p><p></p><p>2) Pasturization. As in "past" focus instead of present/future focus. It does NOT matter what went wrong YESTERDAY, much less last year. 10 years ago might as well have been 1000 years ago. It is all water under the bridge. Done. Gone. Over. Forever. There is absolutely nothing you or anyone else can do about it. <strong><u>So don't go there, you <unprintable></u></strong>. Where are we now, where are we going, and how do we get there. THAT is what matters. The only value history has, is in helping us avoid past mistakes. So... if they need you to take a particular position with the school NOW, and that is different than in the past, well, there might be merit to that. But all you can control is this present moment.</p><p></p><p>So STUFF all this HISTORY stuff, and get on with the real meat-and-potatoes of goal setting and realistic planning and supportive execution.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 502191, member: 11791"] DF - There's two sides to this... so I'll give you both. 1) Myopia. The "professional" takes a look at "the" goal as though it is the "only" goal, and expects the rest of the world to move to make this goal happen - with NO sense of the big picture. This is still totally wrong, but I can see how someone with the wrong approach and/or not enough experience could fall into this part of the trap. 2) Pasturization. As in "past" focus instead of present/future focus. It does NOT matter what went wrong YESTERDAY, much less last year. 10 years ago might as well have been 1000 years ago. It is all water under the bridge. Done. Gone. Over. Forever. There is absolutely nothing you or anyone else can do about it. [B][U]So don't go there, you <unprintable>[/U][/B]. Where are we now, where are we going, and how do we get there. THAT is what matters. The only value history has, is in helping us avoid past mistakes. So... if they need you to take a particular position with the school NOW, and that is different than in the past, well, there might be merit to that. But all you can control is this present moment. So STUFF all this HISTORY stuff, and get on with the real meat-and-potatoes of goal setting and realistic planning and supportive execution. [/QUOTE]
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