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Once Again - All Mom's Fault (Just Shoot Me Now!)
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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 502313" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Susie--</p><p></p><p>I am not q<em>uite </em>going to do this...</p><p></p><p>BUT</p><p></p><p>I am suddenly feeling that it is extremely important that a representative from the school district attend our next team meeting. After all, if my child needs to be held to a higher standard to achieve the new therapy goals - then the SD needs to be involved to discuss the new strategy. (And the state agency prides themselves on coordinating representatives from all parties involved so it should be relatively easy to force the school to attend.) So that will be something to look forward to...</p><p></p><p>Also - I think I need to clarify a little bit. doctor did not just announce that problems were caused in 1st Grade out of the blue....she was trying to make the point that I have been an in-effective parent all along. And that if I had nipped these small behaviors in the bud when difficult child was little - we wouldn't be here now. And that if I had placed more emphasis on academics...then difficult child would never have escalated to bullying, hitting, stealing and all the other difficult child stuff...</p><p></p><p>This, of course, is a completely ridiculous argument. difficult child was a difficult child from the time she was a baby....so at what point would a focus on academics have prevented anything? (Which is how we got to talking about school issues in K and 1st...)</p><p></p><p>I know that I have my priorities straight. I know that violence and safety issues need to be addressed FIRST. Criminal behaviors (like stealing) come second. Whether a child completes their homework is further down the list. </p><p></p><p>The idea that difficult child not being required to complete schoolwork somehow led to violence and criminal behavior is just ridiculous.</p><p></p><p>Yet - here we are.</p><p></p><p>So I have been tasked (by the therapist) to create severe consequences at home for difficult children current poor grades...AND make sure teachers are imposing equally severe consequences at school (specifically - difficult child must be reprimanded each time she talks during class time)...with the idea that these "severe consequences" will suddenly spur difficult child toward being more focused during class time and becoming an A and B student.</p><p></p><p>Oh yes - we will certainly disucss this at the team meeting...</p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/tinfoilhatsmile.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":tinfoilhatsmile:" title="tinfoilhatsmile :tinfoilhatsmile:" data-shortname=":tinfoilhatsmile:" /><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/devil.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":devil:" title="devil :devil:" data-shortname=":devil:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 502313, member: 6546"] Susie-- I am not q[I]uite [/I]going to do this... BUT I am suddenly feeling that it is extremely important that a representative from the school district attend our next team meeting. After all, if my child needs to be held to a higher standard to achieve the new therapy goals - then the SD needs to be involved to discuss the new strategy. (And the state agency prides themselves on coordinating representatives from all parties involved so it should be relatively easy to force the school to attend.) So that will be something to look forward to... Also - I think I need to clarify a little bit. doctor did not just announce that problems were caused in 1st Grade out of the blue....she was trying to make the point that I have been an in-effective parent all along. And that if I had nipped these small behaviors in the bud when difficult child was little - we wouldn't be here now. And that if I had placed more emphasis on academics...then difficult child would never have escalated to bullying, hitting, stealing and all the other difficult child stuff... This, of course, is a completely ridiculous argument. difficult child was a difficult child from the time she was a baby....so at what point would a focus on academics have prevented anything? (Which is how we got to talking about school issues in K and 1st...) I know that I have my priorities straight. I know that violence and safety issues need to be addressed FIRST. Criminal behaviors (like stealing) come second. Whether a child completes their homework is further down the list. The idea that difficult child not being required to complete schoolwork somehow led to violence and criminal behavior is just ridiculous. Yet - here we are. So I have been tasked (by the therapist) to create severe consequences at home for difficult children current poor grades...AND make sure teachers are imposing equally severe consequences at school (specifically - difficult child must be reprimanded each time she talks during class time)...with the idea that these "severe consequences" will suddenly spur difficult child toward being more focused during class time and becoming an A and B student. Oh yes - we will certainly disucss this at the team meeting... :tinfoilhatsmile::devil: [/QUOTE]
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