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<blockquote data-quote="mrsammler" data-source="post: 480910"><p>Where does anyone go who's legally an adult (i.e., over 18) and has made so many mistakes that he's run out of luck and out of patience from family & friends? Homeless shelters, residential motels, shared apartments, rented rooms in private homes, trailer parks. The latter are loaded with people who wore out their welcome with family, blew their employment prospects via mistakes or misconduct of various kinds, and are now living hand-to-mouth. It's terribly depressing to leave them to their own just desserts in such shabby living situations, but for some it's the only way they'll learn and possibly change. And there's no upside in letting a parasitic, rule-breaking *adult* continue to live at home, especially if he/she is being a nuisance.</p><p></p><p>At 20 I was a college dropout, a rowdy partier, and generally a hedonistic wastrel. My father finally put me out of the house and I had to rent a room in a house up the street. It only took a couple of months of that--so bleak, so depressing--for me to realize I'd better get my act together or I was going to have a lousy life. I enlisted in the army, then finished college afterward. Everything after that has been a steady ascent into productivity, accomplishment, responsibility, and fulfillment. It was all spawned by that bleak, depressing experience of being put out of the family home and being forced to face the consequences of my poor choices.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mrsammler, post: 480910"] Where does anyone go who's legally an adult (i.e., over 18) and has made so many mistakes that he's run out of luck and out of patience from family & friends? Homeless shelters, residential motels, shared apartments, rented rooms in private homes, trailer parks. The latter are loaded with people who wore out their welcome with family, blew their employment prospects via mistakes or misconduct of various kinds, and are now living hand-to-mouth. It's terribly depressing to leave them to their own just desserts in such shabby living situations, but for some it's the only way they'll learn and possibly change. And there's no upside in letting a parasitic, rule-breaking *adult* continue to live at home, especially if he/she is being a nuisance. At 20 I was a college dropout, a rowdy partier, and generally a hedonistic wastrel. My father finally put me out of the house and I had to rent a room in a house up the street. It only took a couple of months of that--so bleak, so depressing--for me to realize I'd better get my act together or I was going to have a lousy life. I enlisted in the army, then finished college afterward. Everything after that has been a steady ascent into productivity, accomplishment, responsibility, and fulfillment. It was all spawned by that bleak, depressing experience of being put out of the family home and being forced to face the consequences of my poor choices. [/QUOTE]
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