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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 481132" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Buddy, this is pretty much just for you as we are doing the guardianship bit. I'm not 100% sure, but I think the adult has to be in agreement with the arrangement (Sonic is) or be soooooooo obviously unable to make decisions for himself that the court declares it. I am not at all sure t his includes unruly adult kids in general, even if they have mental health issues only. I am not 100% sure here, but we just had a worker come out setting up guardianship for Sonic and he got to make decisions about it with us. He was very cooperative so it was no big deal. He has no desire to be independent 100%. He is aware that it would be challenging for him. I think Sonic and Q. are a bit different than many of these kids. I had a daughter who took drugs and we never even thought of guardianship. She wouldn't have agreed to it nor followed the rules.</p><p></p><p>As for the general question...our kids who are basically homeless because they won't give up drugs, find places to stay until they finally get tired of their lifestyles and agree to get help. My daughter was VERY lucky that her older brother agreed to take her in, but his rules were stricter than ours and she knew he'd toss her out for one infraction so she listened to him, not wanting to sleep on a park bench. It varies a lot. When the drugs are still #1 in importance, our children, sadly, will live under conditions we can not imagine just to be able to use their drugs. Addiction is a sad disease, but can also be fatal so in my opinion it's best to give them a list of shelters and soup kitchens and not enable them. My daughter swears she would not have stopped using if we had kept her at home. She said, "I knew I could push you pretty far. I don't think I would have had any incentive to quit. It's hard to quit."</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 481132, member: 1550"] Buddy, this is pretty much just for you as we are doing the guardianship bit. I'm not 100% sure, but I think the adult has to be in agreement with the arrangement (Sonic is) or be soooooooo obviously unable to make decisions for himself that the court declares it. I am not at all sure t his includes unruly adult kids in general, even if they have mental health issues only. I am not 100% sure here, but we just had a worker come out setting up guardianship for Sonic and he got to make decisions about it with us. He was very cooperative so it was no big deal. He has no desire to be independent 100%. He is aware that it would be challenging for him. I think Sonic and Q. are a bit different than many of these kids. I had a daughter who took drugs and we never even thought of guardianship. She wouldn't have agreed to it nor followed the rules. As for the general question...our kids who are basically homeless because they won't give up drugs, find places to stay until they finally get tired of their lifestyles and agree to get help. My daughter was VERY lucky that her older brother agreed to take her in, but his rules were stricter than ours and she knew he'd toss her out for one infraction so she listened to him, not wanting to sleep on a park bench. It varies a lot. When the drugs are still #1 in importance, our children, sadly, will live under conditions we can not imagine just to be able to use their drugs. Addiction is a sad disease, but can also be fatal so in my opinion it's best to give them a list of shelters and soup kitchens and not enable them. My daughter swears she would not have stopped using if we had kept her at home. She said, "I knew I could push you pretty far. I don't think I would have had any incentive to quit. It's hard to quit." [/QUOTE]
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