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<blockquote data-quote="JKF" data-source="post: 589204" data-attributes="member: 12470"><p>Ugggghhh just found out there might be a problem with difficult child's probation. He's on ARD probation in PA for the theft charges and owes a hefty fine. He hasn't paid any of it so they might not ok him to leave NJ. They allowed him to come back to NJ bc he was supposedly threatened by gang members but they may not allow him to go to Idaho. </p><p></p><p>He's at Safe Haven and can stay there if this Idaho plan doesn't work out right now. And you know what - I'm ok with that. Yes - I purchased a ticket already but it was only $126.00 so if he can't go and I have to take a loss than so be it. </p><p></p><p>difficult child is furious. It's everyone else's fault but his. The probation officer never picks up the phone, he was homeless, he has no money, etc. Also he's bored, he hates NJ, he has nothing to do here. OMG!! I reminded him gently that he committed the crime and this is a part of the consequences so if they deny his request he has to stay. He didn't like that at all. I suggested that he try to call the PO tomorrow and I will do the same. They may grant him a transfer bc it's a great opportunity but if not it is what it is and he has to deal with the repercussions of HIS bad choices. </p><p></p><p> If he has to stay here he needs to comply with the shelter rules and take medications and get counseling. If not he's on his own. I have to stop this enabling pattern that I've fallen into again RIGHT NOW! I can't keep doing this to myself and my family.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JKF, post: 589204, member: 12470"] Ugggghhh just found out there might be a problem with difficult child's probation. He's on ARD probation in PA for the theft charges and owes a hefty fine. He hasn't paid any of it so they might not ok him to leave NJ. They allowed him to come back to NJ bc he was supposedly threatened by gang members but they may not allow him to go to Idaho. He's at Safe Haven and can stay there if this Idaho plan doesn't work out right now. And you know what - I'm ok with that. Yes - I purchased a ticket already but it was only $126.00 so if he can't go and I have to take a loss than so be it. difficult child is furious. It's everyone else's fault but his. The probation officer never picks up the phone, he was homeless, he has no money, etc. Also he's bored, he hates NJ, he has nothing to do here. OMG!! I reminded him gently that he committed the crime and this is a part of the consequences so if they deny his request he has to stay. He didn't like that at all. I suggested that he try to call the PO tomorrow and I will do the same. They may grant him a transfer bc it's a great opportunity but if not it is what it is and he has to deal with the repercussions of HIS bad choices. If he has to stay here he needs to comply with the shelter rules and take medications and get counseling. If not he's on his own. I have to stop this enabling pattern that I've fallen into again RIGHT NOW! I can't keep doing this to myself and my family. [/QUOTE]
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