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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 560550" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>To answer a few questions...</p><p></p><p>Buddy, </p><p>Honestly, we don't have alot of excess cash right now as we have been pouring everything into home repairs/updating the house for sell. I did want to get grandson especially into counceling but I don't even think that time would allow daughter in law to do this even if we could fund it on a regular basis. Grandson is in school now from 12 to 3 and then daughter in law is taking classes 2 nights a week to get her GED. She and the kids have been living with her mother and her mother works 2 jobs. Her mother watches the kids for daughter in law when needed...and they live around 30 mins from me. </p><p>Another point is that daughter in law is ALWAYS late...I could just see us paying for more missed or late appmnts to a therapist rather than her even making it, sigh. </p><p></p><p>Nancy, </p><p>It is my understanding from daughter in law that young difficult child will be expected to go to AA meetings and also be drug tested. </p><p>Tomorrow night from 6 to 8 pm husband and I plan to attend what is called a Sponser Orientation Program. There they will answer questions like: What is the role of the parole officer? How often does the offender report? How often does the parole officer visit the offender? What happens when a condition of parole is broken and/or a blue warrant is issued?</p><p>This is a 2 hour orientation...I know husband does NOT really want to go, but I am insisting. </p><p></p><p>DDD,</p><p>Ya know...I love this daughter in law to pieces. She is very nurturing to the grandchildren. A very relaxed mom...maybe too relaxed sometimes. She used to be a "party girl" before Young difficult child married her. She quit everything except cigarettes when she found out she was pregnant with oldest grandchild. She is not a "survivor"...she does not generally do a good job of looking out for number one...She is often too busy taking care of everyone else. She is also an enabler and she is a slob just like young difficult child, sigh. I think the one thing that bothers me most is that the kids have very little structure from either parent. For instance, daughter in law and the kids slept on the couches downstairs the other night as they are "used to sleeping in the living room". They have bedrooms with beds...and yet she will sleep in the living room with all the kids to the tv going. Bedtime is "whenever" and wakep the same. </p><p>She has nursed all 3 of the grandkids from 6 to 8 months. She reads to the kids almost every night. She will go to doctors/hospital visits day or night if the kids are sick etc. She is a sweetie...but you are right, she has some more growing up to do. She and Grandson's birthday is tomorrow. I will be making them a cake and having presents before husband and I leave for the orientation meeting re young difficult child. I got her a gift certificate to Victoria Secret. Yikes, what was I thinking...they already have 3 children they can't afford...However, it is my understanding that daughter in law is taking "shots" now every few months to prevent another pregnancy. But she DOES love the babies, for sure. </p><p></p><p>All, </p><p>It is so sad that I am now thinking of all the places around our home and in the garage that have blades of some sort. I will gather as much as I can...just really wish it didnt' have to be a concern. </p><p>Oldest difficult child was almost shot once though. He had taken a knife out of the kitchen drawer to cut himself. He ran out the back door and through the neighborhood. I called police. Half the neighborhood ended up in the field across the street from our home watching the drama unfold as police surrounded oldest difficult child and told him to put the knife down...he refused at first. A few weeks/months later...a police officer was at our house for another incident involving a knife. Oldest difficult child pulled a "butter knife" on young difficult child and young difficult child called police. They arrested oldest difficult child for aggravated assault, roll-eyes. The judge gratefully threw that one out as they are brothers and young difficult child's life was never really in danger. But the police did tell us that they came awfully close to shooting oldest difficult child in that field the night he had the knife and wouldn't put it down at first. Really scared me. </p><p></p><p>Midwest mom, </p><p>I didn't really "do" anything extra nice for myself except enjoy a cheese roll for dessert, smile. We also got a new front door for our home (to sell) yesterday and it is absolutely gorgeos! I am SO ready to sell the house, get out of debt, and have some excess cash as we won't have any more "home repairs" to take care of...Seriously, we have dumped more than 10k into the house since July. </p><p></p><p>I am so relieved that I will have you all to share with/vent when young difficult child is released. </p><p>Thanks again for caring,</p><p>Love, </p><p>LMS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 560550, member: 3305"] To answer a few questions... Buddy, Honestly, we don't have alot of excess cash right now as we have been pouring everything into home repairs/updating the house for sell. I did want to get grandson especially into counceling but I don't even think that time would allow daughter in law to do this even if we could fund it on a regular basis. Grandson is in school now from 12 to 3 and then daughter in law is taking classes 2 nights a week to get her GED. She and the kids have been living with her mother and her mother works 2 jobs. Her mother watches the kids for daughter in law when needed...and they live around 30 mins from me. Another point is that daughter in law is ALWAYS late...I could just see us paying for more missed or late appmnts to a therapist rather than her even making it, sigh. Nancy, It is my understanding from daughter in law that young difficult child will be expected to go to AA meetings and also be drug tested. Tomorrow night from 6 to 8 pm husband and I plan to attend what is called a Sponser Orientation Program. There they will answer questions like: What is the role of the parole officer? How often does the offender report? How often does the parole officer visit the offender? What happens when a condition of parole is broken and/or a blue warrant is issued? This is a 2 hour orientation...I know husband does NOT really want to go, but I am insisting. DDD, Ya know...I love this daughter in law to pieces. She is very nurturing to the grandchildren. A very relaxed mom...maybe too relaxed sometimes. She used to be a "party girl" before Young difficult child married her. She quit everything except cigarettes when she found out she was pregnant with oldest grandchild. She is not a "survivor"...she does not generally do a good job of looking out for number one...She is often too busy taking care of everyone else. She is also an enabler and she is a slob just like young difficult child, sigh. I think the one thing that bothers me most is that the kids have very little structure from either parent. For instance, daughter in law and the kids slept on the couches downstairs the other night as they are "used to sleeping in the living room". They have bedrooms with beds...and yet she will sleep in the living room with all the kids to the tv going. Bedtime is "whenever" and wakep the same. She has nursed all 3 of the grandkids from 6 to 8 months. She reads to the kids almost every night. She will go to doctors/hospital visits day or night if the kids are sick etc. She is a sweetie...but you are right, she has some more growing up to do. She and Grandson's birthday is tomorrow. I will be making them a cake and having presents before husband and I leave for the orientation meeting re young difficult child. I got her a gift certificate to Victoria Secret. Yikes, what was I thinking...they already have 3 children they can't afford...However, it is my understanding that daughter in law is taking "shots" now every few months to prevent another pregnancy. But she DOES love the babies, for sure. All, It is so sad that I am now thinking of all the places around our home and in the garage that have blades of some sort. I will gather as much as I can...just really wish it didnt' have to be a concern. Oldest difficult child was almost shot once though. He had taken a knife out of the kitchen drawer to cut himself. He ran out the back door and through the neighborhood. I called police. Half the neighborhood ended up in the field across the street from our home watching the drama unfold as police surrounded oldest difficult child and told him to put the knife down...he refused at first. A few weeks/months later...a police officer was at our house for another incident involving a knife. Oldest difficult child pulled a "butter knife" on young difficult child and young difficult child called police. They arrested oldest difficult child for aggravated assault, roll-eyes. The judge gratefully threw that one out as they are brothers and young difficult child's life was never really in danger. But the police did tell us that they came awfully close to shooting oldest difficult child in that field the night he had the knife and wouldn't put it down at first. Really scared me. Midwest mom, I didn't really "do" anything extra nice for myself except enjoy a cheese roll for dessert, smile. We also got a new front door for our home (to sell) yesterday and it is absolutely gorgeos! I am SO ready to sell the house, get out of debt, and have some excess cash as we won't have any more "home repairs" to take care of...Seriously, we have dumped more than 10k into the house since July. I am so relieved that I will have you all to share with/vent when young difficult child is released. Thanks again for caring, Love, LMS [/QUOTE]
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