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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 229287" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>I used to "co-owner" a horse. The owner no longer had the time to ride much but loved to do shows. So, I would do the maintenance on the horse -- riding, grooming, dressage and jump work -- and she would pay for the stabling, feed, vet and farrier bills. At least once a month she would take him out to some local shows and do her thing. It was a great deal for both of us. You might check local stables and see if there's anything like this available.</p><p> </p><p>I think your boyfriend being so generous is wonderful. However, what happens if you guys break up? Quite frankly, you're not married and you've had some serious issues with him. He sounds like a great guy but this is definitely not a match made in heaven. Selling a horse is not easy. It usually takes time. Do you really think you can afford it if you're single again?</p><p> </p><p>Jen, in so many ways you remind me of my daughter. The difference is she's almost 22, and you're almost 40. When she wants something, she wants it now. If you give her reasons why it isn't a good idea, she'll work around you to get it. She will argue something from 100 million angles until she thinks she's found a way to convince you that she's right and she should get what she wants. If reality hits her across the head and shows her she can't have what she wants, she sulks and cries.</p><p> </p><p>Having a horse is a dream many of us have. Don't give up on that dream but compromise it. Find a way to ride either by renting or working at a stable or something but owning a horse is irresponsible on your part. You have a lot of debt right now. You have two girls who really need you and a merged family that puts a lot of pressure on you. You're just starting a new job. Get as much of your life together as you can before you take on an added responsibility, whether it be another hamster or a horse.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 229287, member: 3626"] I used to "co-owner" a horse. The owner no longer had the time to ride much but loved to do shows. So, I would do the maintenance on the horse -- riding, grooming, dressage and jump work -- and she would pay for the stabling, feed, vet and farrier bills. At least once a month she would take him out to some local shows and do her thing. It was a great deal for both of us. You might check local stables and see if there's anything like this available. I think your boyfriend being so generous is wonderful. However, what happens if you guys break up? Quite frankly, you're not married and you've had some serious issues with him. He sounds like a great guy but this is definitely not a match made in heaven. Selling a horse is not easy. It usually takes time. Do you really think you can afford it if you're single again? Jen, in so many ways you remind me of my daughter. The difference is she's almost 22, and you're almost 40. When she wants something, she wants it now. If you give her reasons why it isn't a good idea, she'll work around you to get it. She will argue something from 100 million angles until she thinks she's found a way to convince you that she's right and she should get what she wants. If reality hits her across the head and shows her she can't have what she wants, she sulks and cries. Having a horse is a dream many of us have. Don't give up on that dream but compromise it. Find a way to ride either by renting or working at a stable or something but owning a horse is irresponsible on your part. You have a lot of debt right now. You have two girls who really need you and a merged family that puts a lot of pressure on you. You're just starting a new job. Get as much of your life together as you can before you take on an added responsibility, whether it be another hamster or a horse. [/QUOTE]
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