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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 731087" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>Wow...this could be hard for me. I'm very much a "things happen for a reason" kind of person.</p><p></p><p>My <em>first</em> thought was marrying my first husband. BUT, if I hadn't, I wouldn't have lost my law firm job and started working for the state and moved to the town I live in now...and I wouldn't have had my son...who difficult as he may have been, I love dearly. AND, if I hadn't had him, I wouldn't have needed to move to an apartment with a yard to play in and thus would never have met my (former) friend T. AND, if I hadn't been friends with T, I would never have been introduced to Jabber who is truly my soul-mate. SO...if I hadn't married my ex, who gave me nothing but mental abuse, a child, and bad credit, I wouldn't now be married to the love of my life. SO - I really can't regret that.</p><p></p><p>Next I thought, I shouldn't have missed out on buying a fantastic house back in the day at the lake when I worked for the firm. BUT, If I had bought that house, I would have been saving my money and working on the house, and not been out acting like a drunken fool the night I met the ex. And if I hadn't met the ex...</p><p></p><p>Then I thought, "going to law school". I was offered a student teacher position with a living stipend to go to Arizona State for my masters when I graduated college. I gave it up to go to law school. BUT, if I wasn't a lawyer, I wouldn't have had a job at the lake and I wouldn't have been there to act like a drunken fool and meet the ex. And if I hadn't met the ex...</p><p></p><p>There are other things...things I did and didn't do that changed the course of my life. But because all of them lead down roads where I would never have met Jabber - I can't regret them, even if I should.</p><p></p><p>So...I don't think I <em>have</em> any BIG regrets. I have a few little ones:</p><p></p><p>*I wish Jabber and I were better with money. I wish we'd have lived more frugally and spent our extra money (tax refunds and the like) on travel instead of frittering it away with nothing to show for it.</p><p></p><p>*I wish we weren't procrastinators...I wish we'd DO the projects we set out for, instead of starting and stopping and never getting done.</p><p></p><p>*I wish we'd have been more active people and taken our son to do more active things like hiking and boating and camping.</p><p></p><p>*I wish I'd watched my weight and eaten healthier along with the above.</p><p></p><p>*I wish I'd spent more time with my parents when I could. I lost them when I was just starting to be an adult and after 30 years without them, I still miss them every day.</p><p></p><p>*I wish I'd learned more things from my mom that I want to know now - like canning and crochet and other "lost arts".</p><p></p><p>*I regret having lost touch with some of my old friends.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 731087, member: 17309"] Wow...this could be hard for me. I'm very much a "things happen for a reason" kind of person. My [I]first[/I] thought was marrying my first husband. BUT, if I hadn't, I wouldn't have lost my law firm job and started working for the state and moved to the town I live in now...and I wouldn't have had my son...who difficult as he may have been, I love dearly. AND, if I hadn't had him, I wouldn't have needed to move to an apartment with a yard to play in and thus would never have met my (former) friend T. AND, if I hadn't been friends with T, I would never have been introduced to Jabber who is truly my soul-mate. SO...if I hadn't married my ex, who gave me nothing but mental abuse, a child, and bad credit, I wouldn't now be married to the love of my life. SO - I really can't regret that. Next I thought, I shouldn't have missed out on buying a fantastic house back in the day at the lake when I worked for the firm. BUT, If I had bought that house, I would have been saving my money and working on the house, and not been out acting like a drunken fool the night I met the ex. And if I hadn't met the ex... Then I thought, "going to law school". I was offered a student teacher position with a living stipend to go to Arizona State for my masters when I graduated college. I gave it up to go to law school. BUT, if I wasn't a lawyer, I wouldn't have had a job at the lake and I wouldn't have been there to act like a drunken fool and meet the ex. And if I hadn't met the ex... There are other things...things I did and didn't do that changed the course of my life. But because all of them lead down roads where I would never have met Jabber - I can't regret them, even if I should. So...I don't think I [I]have[/I] any BIG regrets. I have a few little ones: *I wish Jabber and I were better with money. I wish we'd have lived more frugally and spent our extra money (tax refunds and the like) on travel instead of frittering it away with nothing to show for it. *I wish we weren't procrastinators...I wish we'd DO the projects we set out for, instead of starting and stopping and never getting done. *I wish we'd have been more active people and taken our son to do more active things like hiking and boating and camping. *I wish I'd watched my weight and eaten healthier along with the above. *I wish I'd spent more time with my parents when I could. I lost them when I was just starting to be an adult and after 30 years without them, I still miss them every day. *I wish I'd learned more things from my mom that I want to know now - like canning and crochet and other "lost arts". *I regret having lost touch with some of my old friends. [/QUOTE]
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