Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Substance Abuse
One step forward, two steps back
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="so ready to live" data-source="post: 709374" data-attributes="member: 20054"><p>RN. So sorry this is in your face again. We have had much ado also but I almost feel like I can't write it out one more time.</p><p></p><p>You are right to trust yourself. I have seen the signs way before my hubs, consistently. </p><p></p><p></p><p>I love my son so much but my anger and sadness are closely related. My son has recently been offered a six month bed in rehab---offered, not court mandated-he hasn't recently been in trouble. He said "that's overkill, I'm not that bad" He's 29, his health is really going downhill also. I feel like this is a chance to start over, he hates his life. But he is afraid. So, we help him when he seems sober---moving him again this wkend to another dive. No $ given ever. we wait for him to decide this isn't "fun anymore" We pray he decides before it's too late....</p><p>I believe you and your hubby handled the $ issue just right. Cause and effect. Now, it's just wait and see for you all. I'm glad you didn't fall for the "I'll pay you back" You made that happen now. </p><p>The blocking of the phone is also helpful for me, the PTSD of any call from him is unbearable. My husband handles most all of it and tells me what he chooses. To some extent that feels like he lies to me, a sin of omission I guess. But I simply can't take it, we both know that. </p><p>We have joked that we should just tape a bottle of xanax to the back of the cellphone and we could take one whenever we see him on caller ID...got to laugh because we have already cried so very much. You have too. Prayers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="so ready to live, post: 709374, member: 20054"] RN. So sorry this is in your face again. We have had much ado also but I almost feel like I can't write it out one more time. You are right to trust yourself. I have seen the signs way before my hubs, consistently. I love my son so much but my anger and sadness are closely related. My son has recently been offered a six month bed in rehab---offered, not court mandated-he hasn't recently been in trouble. He said "that's overkill, I'm not that bad" He's 29, his health is really going downhill also. I feel like this is a chance to start over, he hates his life. But he is afraid. So, we help him when he seems sober---moving him again this wkend to another dive. No $ given ever. we wait for him to decide this isn't "fun anymore" We pray he decides before it's too late.... I believe you and your hubby handled the $ issue just right. Cause and effect. Now, it's just wait and see for you all. I'm glad you didn't fall for the "I'll pay you back" You made that happen now. The blocking of the phone is also helpful for me, the PTSD of any call from him is unbearable. My husband handles most all of it and tells me what he chooses. To some extent that feels like he lies to me, a sin of omission I guess. But I simply can't take it, we both know that. We have joked that we should just tape a bottle of xanax to the back of the cellphone and we could take one whenever we see him on caller ID...got to laugh because we have already cried so very much. You have too. Prayers. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Substance Abuse
One step forward, two steps back
Top