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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 709632" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Thanks for all your comments and support. I do really appreciate it.</p><p></p><p>My son reached out to his father this weekend and said he has all the rent money so doesn't need anything from us. Husband had originally told him he would give him what he normally gives him minus the money he helped himself to. We felt he would be in a pickle but his would be a consequence so he needed it. We were rather surprised that he worked this out on his own. Lesson learned: the more we do for him the less he does for himself.</p><p></p><p>I have him blocked on my phone but when I came to work today he emailed me saying that he had a slip up and he is back on track now. He was drinking and did not think of consequences but he learned from it. He needs our support or he fears he'll fail. I feel pills were involved and told him so. That is the only time he stole from us. I also told him that there is so much bad in the world and bad people and he keeps bringing that into my life. I don't want it in my life. I have learned from it too.</p><p></p><p>I do not feel that I can go back to where we were before this happened. I let him know that I love him of course but I have been watching this over and over for over five years and I need a break. He does good for 3-4 months and then has a relapse. Now he's out in the real world and the stakes are higher. I also told him that I watched my mother's addiction kill her (alcohol); that I was a child and had no choice but I will not do it again with him. He needs some type of professional help. I do not think he can do this on his own and him having our support is not the reason he'll stay on track - or not. Maybe it's a youth group or maybe it's some other type of passion but there is a big something missing from all of this. It's something he has to figure out for himself.</p><p></p><p>Just because I'm his mother doesn't mean that I can keep doing this with him. I am going to talk to my therapist today about all of this. I know he wants to see us the end of April when we will be in Florida but I feel that I need to keep my distance from him and this should be a consequence of his actions.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 709632, member: 15032"] Thanks for all your comments and support. I do really appreciate it. My son reached out to his father this weekend and said he has all the rent money so doesn't need anything from us. Husband had originally told him he would give him what he normally gives him minus the money he helped himself to. We felt he would be in a pickle but his would be a consequence so he needed it. We were rather surprised that he worked this out on his own. Lesson learned: the more we do for him the less he does for himself. I have him blocked on my phone but when I came to work today he emailed me saying that he had a slip up and he is back on track now. He was drinking and did not think of consequences but he learned from it. He needs our support or he fears he'll fail. I feel pills were involved and told him so. That is the only time he stole from us. I also told him that there is so much bad in the world and bad people and he keeps bringing that into my life. I don't want it in my life. I have learned from it too. I do not feel that I can go back to where we were before this happened. I let him know that I love him of course but I have been watching this over and over for over five years and I need a break. He does good for 3-4 months and then has a relapse. Now he's out in the real world and the stakes are higher. I also told him that I watched my mother's addiction kill her (alcohol); that I was a child and had no choice but I will not do it again with him. He needs some type of professional help. I do not think he can do this on his own and him having our support is not the reason he'll stay on track - or not. Maybe it's a youth group or maybe it's some other type of passion but there is a big something missing from all of this. It's something he has to figure out for himself. Just because I'm his mother doesn't mean that I can keep doing this with him. I am going to talk to my therapist today about all of this. I know he wants to see us the end of April when we will be in Florida but I feel that I need to keep my distance from him and this should be a consequence of his actions. [/QUOTE]
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