difficult child is sabotaging her realtionship with Monkeyboy, which in and of itself, I really don't mind - I'm not his biggest fan, after all, in case you hadn't figured that out yet, lol. She lied to MB so she could hang out with this other guy last night. Apparently, she told him she was out at the movies with me, except she never told me I was her 'cover'. Monkeyboy IM'd me on the computer and asked who I was and when I said I was "difficult child's mom" I could almost hear the "Gasp!"...I asked him, "who else would it be?" and he said, "difficult child told me she was at the movies with you"...Me: "Um, no, I'm sitting here Im-ing with YOU, silly!" So, why did difficult child lie to monkeyboy to hang out with another guy?? And of course, this other guy is just as big a loser as MB. After all, why should he be any different? And she knows we don't like him. He looks like a weasel. Anyway, within 30 minutes, there is a [loud] knocking at our side door. It's Monkeyboy!!! OMG. I sat on the patio with him and tried to have a coherent conversation...all the time never telling him that I know who she is with (the very guy he suspects her of being with). I was mostly hanging out with him so I was there when she came home I wanted to see how he reacted. Which she finally did, another 45 minutes later. Apparently, the turd she was with dropped her off down the street. About five minutes before she crept onto the patio, already crying knowing she was in deep doo-doo (with both of us), some one drove by and yelled out Monkeyboy's name! Anyway, after difficult child came up, I went inside while they hacked it out and cried. I did ask if they would be okay alone together and pointedly told MB that I would not tolerate foul language or violence to which he replied, smooth as silk, "You would never have to worry about such a thing from me. I would never be violent with difficult child!". Ok. At one point I had went back out with the pups (difficult child ran inside for something) and he put out his hand in a very dramatic manner and said, "It's been nice knowing you" <eye roll> and I said, "Stop being such a drama queen" and walked away. It's hard to have sympathy for a guy who's dating my daughter and is unemployed, has no car, is under suspicion of physically and emotionally harming my daughter, and sends her home stoned. But, MB aside, what is up with difficult child?? Why does she do this to herself? Why does she lie like this? It's like a **** all the time with her. Seems when things get boring for her...she has to create the drama. She was stooped over crying in the kitchen to me asking me why she does this to herself. I sent her back outside to talk to MB, told her maybe they should take a break so she can think things through. I honestly do not even know what to say to her that I haven't already said 8 million times. I mean, how many times does she ask and I tell before it sinks in? And I'm tired of caring, I know that sounds mean, but really.