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<blockquote data-quote="LauraH" data-source="post: 747032" data-attributes="member: 22877"><p>I am at the point of establishing no...and I mean no...contact with my son, not even phone or text. My biggest fear in doing so is that my "zero contact" would be for a week or two, then a month if nothing has changed, then six months if nothing has changed after that, but that his "zero contact" could be permanent, in which case I could easily not know whether he was alive or dead. That's what I'm struggling with. But I'm so tired of the endless roller coaster of rational moments, irrational bipolar moments, and then the dreaded "tweaking" (I think is what they call it) moments when he's using. I can't keep going like this, and my husband is just entering his busy season and the last thing he needs is the drama that surrounds and follow my son even in his better moments. He'll be working 10 - 12 hours a day, six days a week from now until after Labor Day and he certainly doesn't deserve any of this. Neither do I for that matter. Neither does my son, truth be told, but he creates it so he's the only one that really owns it. But my husband and I have to own the fact that we've allowed it to continue. The boundaries we've set work to an extent, but just like a little kid, he's always pushing and testing to see how far he can go. It's like his brain got stuck at 13 or something, which is sad, because he'll be 30 on Sunday.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LauraH, post: 747032, member: 22877"] I am at the point of establishing no...and I mean no...contact with my son, not even phone or text. My biggest fear in doing so is that my "zero contact" would be for a week or two, then a month if nothing has changed, then six months if nothing has changed after that, but that his "zero contact" could be permanent, in which case I could easily not know whether he was alive or dead. That's what I'm struggling with. But I'm so tired of the endless roller coaster of rational moments, irrational bipolar moments, and then the dreaded "tweaking" (I think is what they call it) moments when he's using. I can't keep going like this, and my husband is just entering his busy season and the last thing he needs is the drama that surrounds and follow my son even in his better moments. He'll be working 10 - 12 hours a day, six days a week from now until after Labor Day and he certainly doesn't deserve any of this. Neither do I for that matter. Neither does my son, truth be told, but he creates it so he's the only one that really owns it. But my husband and I have to own the fact that we've allowed it to continue. The boundaries we've set work to an extent, but just like a little kid, he's always pushing and testing to see how far he can go. It's like his brain got stuck at 13 or something, which is sad, because he'll be 30 on Sunday. [/QUOTE]
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