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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 32180" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi. First of all, what is ASP? Aspergers? If so, is he getting autism supports and interventions? If not, I strongly suggest getting them. My son is on the spectrum and, if he hadn't gotten them, he would have been a mess-he started out very violent; he is very mellow today and doing well. Psychiatrists aren't the best people for Aspergers. It's not a psychiatric problem, although it can turn into one if it isn't understood. Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids are intristically different, and I higly recommend reading books on Aspergers.Tony Atwood has great books (<a href="http://www.tonyatwood.com" target="_blank">www.tonyatwood.com</a>) The second thing I advise is NOT TO GET DEFENSIVE WITH CYS!!!! I advise, from experience, explaining calmly and doing whatever they ask or they could cause you further trouble. I have a few suggestions. First of all, post a signature, like I did below, so we know what kind of diagnosis the child has and what his medications are. Certain medications can make kids even worse and wrong diagnoses happen all the time. If he isn't seeing a Child Psychiatrist (not psycologist) in my opinion he needs to see one for an evaluation. On top of that, I'd add a neuropsychologist, which is a psycologist with training in the brain. They do extensive testing that even Psychiatrists don't do and are good at figuring out why a child is acting out. There is a reason--it's not that he wakes up every day to cause you grief, although it can seem that way. Until you really know what's going on, it's hard to know if he can or can't control his behavior, but, from experience, I'm guessing that it looks like he can, but he can't. I would NOT do the homework wars with this child. It simply isn't worth it. I would demand an IEP meeting with psychiatrist attending and, if the school stalls you, call your state Dept. of Public Education and ask for help. They WILL help you. For discipline, I'd do "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. This child is not stable and, as you've said, nothing is going to work for him until he IS stable. It's best to let a lot of the stuff just slide until you get him on track or your house will be a constant war zone. Is your husband the child's father? If not, he could be in deep trouble for laying a hand on him. Even if he is, he could. Although he didn't give him a black eye, some bad stuff is going on--the throwing stuff and spanking is counterproductive and can get you both into trouble. Plus it won't help, so why even bother? It will only fuel him. I think the child needs to be stabilized and maybe re-evaluated by another Psychiatrist or neuropsychologist--clearly whoever he sees isn't helping him. Since he's not getting help, I'd look for another opinion; ask for referrals from reliable sources. To help in diagnosing, look at your family tree. Are there mood disorders, substance abuse, or any neurological problems on either side of the family tree? Any undiagnosed, but obviously sick relatives? I'd want that aide changed YESTERDAY! In fact, I'd put it in writing. I wish you luck, it's not easy, but don't give up.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 32180, member: 1550"] Hi. First of all, what is ASP? Aspergers? If so, is he getting autism supports and interventions? If not, I strongly suggest getting them. My son is on the spectrum and, if he hadn't gotten them, he would have been a mess-he started out very violent; he is very mellow today and doing well. Psychiatrists aren't the best people for Aspergers. It's not a psychiatric problem, although it can turn into one if it isn't understood. Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids are intristically different, and I higly recommend reading books on Aspergers.Tony Atwood has great books ([url]www.tonyatwood.com[/url]) The second thing I advise is NOT TO GET DEFENSIVE WITH CYS!!!! I advise, from experience, explaining calmly and doing whatever they ask or they could cause you further trouble. I have a few suggestions. First of all, post a signature, like I did below, so we know what kind of diagnosis the child has and what his medications are. Certain medications can make kids even worse and wrong diagnoses happen all the time. If he isn't seeing a Child Psychiatrist (not psycologist) in my opinion he needs to see one for an evaluation. On top of that, I'd add a neuropsychologist, which is a psycologist with training in the brain. They do extensive testing that even Psychiatrists don't do and are good at figuring out why a child is acting out. There is a reason--it's not that he wakes up every day to cause you grief, although it can seem that way. Until you really know what's going on, it's hard to know if he can or can't control his behavior, but, from experience, I'm guessing that it looks like he can, but he can't. I would NOT do the homework wars with this child. It simply isn't worth it. I would demand an IEP meeting with psychiatrist attending and, if the school stalls you, call your state Dept. of Public Education and ask for help. They WILL help you. For discipline, I'd do "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. This child is not stable and, as you've said, nothing is going to work for him until he IS stable. It's best to let a lot of the stuff just slide until you get him on track or your house will be a constant war zone. Is your husband the child's father? If not, he could be in deep trouble for laying a hand on him. Even if he is, he could. Although he didn't give him a black eye, some bad stuff is going on--the throwing stuff and spanking is counterproductive and can get you both into trouble. Plus it won't help, so why even bother? It will only fuel him. I think the child needs to be stabilized and maybe re-evaluated by another Psychiatrist or neuropsychologist--clearly whoever he sees isn't helping him. Since he's not getting help, I'd look for another opinion; ask for referrals from reliable sources. To help in diagnosing, look at your family tree. Are there mood disorders, substance abuse, or any neurological problems on either side of the family tree? Any undiagnosed, but obviously sick relatives? I'd want that aide changed YESTERDAY! In fact, I'd put it in writing. I wish you luck, it's not easy, but don't give up. [/QUOTE]
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