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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 254403"><p>The Carter/Clinton sibling analogy thing is so interesting.</p><p> </p><p>Ya know, I've had professors recently who have indicated problems are the result of parenting and much of this is MOMS fault. It was very difficult for me to cope with this...simply because I know in my heart that it is out of line. I've had other professors who have indicated that parents are influenctial, but many inappropriate behaviors are caused by brain chemistry. Sure, mom and dad have an influence. Perhaps mom has a slightly greater one.(not sure). But...to what extent? What percentage? And for how long? How much emphasis can we or should we place here? It seems counterproductive to over emphasize something that is only a percentage of influence and could be a small percentage. And additionally, each one of us when we reach the age of accountability need to leave that stuff behind.</p><p>This is part of the enabling situation. It weakens an individual and surely at a great (er) rate of speed when that person is 18 or over. Helping is one thing. Enabling is another. It takes away a persons sense of pride...a sense of dignity...a sense of accountability...responsibility. One can't move forward without these things and much can be overcome with inner strength.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 254403"] The Carter/Clinton sibling analogy thing is so interesting. Ya know, I've had professors recently who have indicated problems are the result of parenting and much of this is MOMS fault. It was very difficult for me to cope with this...simply because I know in my heart that it is out of line. I've had other professors who have indicated that parents are influenctial, but many inappropriate behaviors are caused by brain chemistry. Sure, mom and dad have an influence. Perhaps mom has a slightly greater one.(not sure). But...to what extent? What percentage? And for how long? How much emphasis can we or should we place here? It seems counterproductive to over emphasize something that is only a percentage of influence and could be a small percentage. And additionally, each one of us when we reach the age of accountability need to leave that stuff behind. This is part of the enabling situation. It weakens an individual and surely at a great (er) rate of speed when that person is 18 or over. Helping is one thing. Enabling is another. It takes away a persons sense of pride...a sense of dignity...a sense of accountability...responsibility. One can't move forward without these things and much can be overcome with inner strength. [/QUOTE]
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