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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 660947" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am so very PROUD of you and your husband for refusing to take her back. PLEASE, no matter what they say or do, REFUSE to take her back. Personally I would terminate contact with her. I would do my best to get a restraining order as she shows signs of being a psychopath and a danger to you and your pets (not sure court cares about pets.). </p><p></p><p>Some years back I said something that was very helpful in getting the judge, therapists, a nd social workers to understand my position on certain things with my kids, and I think it might be helpful to you: "We reuse to sacrifice our other children and our family on the altar of our oldest child's disorders, problems and poor choices."</p><p></p><p>Until I said that, absolutely NO ONE even THOUGHT about our other kids. It was ridiculous, but the safety of our other kids didn't MATTER until a major problem with them occurred, and then they would take the other kids because they were not as disturbed and were easier to place!</p><p></p><p>Refuse to sacrifice your other children more than you already have. It is sad and disturbing, but once your other kids, esp the younger one, are positive that they are truly safe, they will start to tell you things that happened that you have zero clue about. Things that the disturbed child did to them, esp to the younger of your kids, and things she said about how you knew and were oka ywith it. These are insidious, and the entire family ill nee ongoing thrapy for quite some time.</p><p></p><p>I am sorry this is so hard and damaging, but you are doing the right thing by not taking her home with you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 660947, member: 1233"] I am so very PROUD of you and your husband for refusing to take her back. PLEASE, no matter what they say or do, REFUSE to take her back. Personally I would terminate contact with her. I would do my best to get a restraining order as she shows signs of being a psychopath and a danger to you and your pets (not sure court cares about pets.). Some years back I said something that was very helpful in getting the judge, therapists, a nd social workers to understand my position on certain things with my kids, and I think it might be helpful to you: "We reuse to sacrifice our other children and our family on the altar of our oldest child's disorders, problems and poor choices." Until I said that, absolutely NO ONE even THOUGHT about our other kids. It was ridiculous, but the safety of our other kids didn't MATTER until a major problem with them occurred, and then they would take the other kids because they were not as disturbed and were easier to place! Refuse to sacrifice your other children more than you already have. It is sad and disturbing, but once your other kids, esp the younger one, are positive that they are truly safe, they will start to tell you things that happened that you have zero clue about. Things that the disturbed child did to them, esp to the younger of your kids, and things she said about how you knew and were oka ywith it. These are insidious, and the entire family ill nee ongoing thrapy for quite some time. I am sorry this is so hard and damaging, but you are doing the right thing by not taking her home with you. [/QUOTE]
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