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<blockquote data-quote="bluebell" data-source="post: 713411" data-attributes="member: 16761"><p>Colleen, I'm kinda in the same spot as you, except my son is not actively looking for help. But he is at home after being kicked out and arrested twice. He's in quite the pickle with no car and no job. But we've 'bailed' him out so many times, given him so many blank slates that I'm just not stupid enough to do it again. It's hard because I do see a path where he could get around all this and I start trying to figure out all the logistics in my head. But one thing sticks out that he said to me a few months ago. He said 'Mom I don't want your treasure maps.' when I was laying out a detailed path for him , ie Step 1 - stop associating with friends, Step 2 - find a job, etc etc. That resounds with me. He doesn't want my 'treasure maps' but that is what they are. And they are mine. He's rejected them and must come up with his own. Somehow this line of thinking helps me detach from the constant worry and anxiety. I just wish he didn't live here. If he doesn't come up with his own 'treasure map' soon, he will be homeless. And that's ok.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="bluebell, post: 713411, member: 16761"] Colleen, I'm kinda in the same spot as you, except my son is not actively looking for help. But he is at home after being kicked out and arrested twice. He's in quite the pickle with no car and no job. But we've 'bailed' him out so many times, given him so many blank slates that I'm just not stupid enough to do it again. It's hard because I do see a path where he could get around all this and I start trying to figure out all the logistics in my head. But one thing sticks out that he said to me a few months ago. He said 'Mom I don't want your treasure maps.' when I was laying out a detailed path for him , ie Step 1 - stop associating with friends, Step 2 - find a job, etc etc. That resounds with me. He doesn't want my 'treasure maps' but that is what they are. And they are mine. He's rejected them and must come up with his own. Somehow this line of thinking helps me detach from the constant worry and anxiety. I just wish he didn't live here. If he doesn't come up with his own 'treasure map' soon, he will be homeless. And that's ok. [/QUOTE]
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