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Painful Experience of Son in Justice System
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<blockquote data-quote="so ready to live" data-source="post: 691810" data-attributes="member: 20054"><p>Hi SNM. I'm sorry for your pain. Someone had a thread "they don't know what they put us through" SO TRUE.</p><p></p><p>This was/continues to be the hardest part for us. We just don't know with our son's limitations whether he's really capable of making it on his own. We did finally realize that he knew right from wrong and could verbalize that...so he was just plain choosing his own way. It looks like a succession of terrible decisions to us, but to him, there must be some benefit or he wouldn't keep doing it this way. Is the benefit "I do what I want, when I want"? If this is the case, then do it. But, don't expect someone to rescue you. Or do they simply fall in with anyone who will accept them? ...and fall into their lifestyle...that's what it seems our son has done and that's what breaks my heart. The problem for us is he seems to expect us to clean it up afterward. At 28? Really? But it's so tiring to watch, hear about, be begged over and over and over....it's no wonder we feel like we would simply pay him to go away (don't tell him <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" />) but we know he would be back before long, hand out, with a story again. it's our Grimm fairytale and it's really grim.</p><p> It seems I end every good cry with "But I wanted so much for him"...I wish<em> he </em>wanted so much for him...</p><p>Love and prayers to you, this is just plain awful.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>'</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="so ready to live, post: 691810, member: 20054"] Hi SNM. I'm sorry for your pain. Someone had a thread "they don't know what they put us through" SO TRUE. This was/continues to be the hardest part for us. We just don't know with our son's limitations whether he's really capable of making it on his own. We did finally realize that he knew right from wrong and could verbalize that...so he was just plain choosing his own way. It looks like a succession of terrible decisions to us, but to him, there must be some benefit or he wouldn't keep doing it this way. Is the benefit "I do what I want, when I want"? If this is the case, then do it. But, don't expect someone to rescue you. Or do they simply fall in with anyone who will accept them? ...and fall into their lifestyle...that's what it seems our son has done and that's what breaks my heart. The problem for us is he seems to expect us to clean it up afterward. At 28? Really? But it's so tiring to watch, hear about, be begged over and over and over....it's no wonder we feel like we would simply pay him to go away (don't tell him ;)) but we know he would be back before long, hand out, with a story again. it's our Grimm fairytale and it's really grim. It seems I end every good cry with "But I wanted so much for him"...I wish[I] he [/I]wanted so much for him... Love and prayers to you, this is just plain awful. ' [/QUOTE]
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