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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 33354" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Do make sure you check out the lyrics first (Google a chunk of definitive text first, keep deleting a letter or word if you get no hits, or check spelling). But I agree, you can't ignore this. Can you talk to him about it? I would ask him if he did write those lyrics, because if you're not sure if it's actually a song already in existence, then clearly he has talent in expressing himself which, incidentally, is darned good therapy - if he wrote this himself as part of his own coping strategy it is a very good thing for him to have done.</p><p></p><p>If he did write this himself, congratulate him on very talented, effective writing. Ask him if he has considered submitting it somewhere for evaluation because it's really so good it seems so real. Then you can move into - how could he write so effectively without actually feeling this way himself sometimes? If you have to, be honest about your own past feelings of depression - it's no shame to admit to it, privately with someone you're close to. Hopefully you could help him accept consulting an expert about these feelings to stave off too much having to deal with such overwhelming distress.</p><p></p><p>But if this doesn't sound likely, then drag him in to see someone, taking a copy of the lyrics with you.</p><p></p><p>Just don't let it lie. It sounds like he IS trying to cope, but he might have too much to struggle against. or he might be winning the fight. You don't know which it is and it would be tragic if you were wrong.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 33354, member: 1991"] Do make sure you check out the lyrics first (Google a chunk of definitive text first, keep deleting a letter or word if you get no hits, or check spelling). But I agree, you can't ignore this. Can you talk to him about it? I would ask him if he did write those lyrics, because if you're not sure if it's actually a song already in existence, then clearly he has talent in expressing himself which, incidentally, is darned good therapy - if he wrote this himself as part of his own coping strategy it is a very good thing for him to have done. If he did write this himself, congratulate him on very talented, effective writing. Ask him if he has considered submitting it somewhere for evaluation because it's really so good it seems so real. Then you can move into - how could he write so effectively without actually feeling this way himself sometimes? If you have to, be honest about your own past feelings of depression - it's no shame to admit to it, privately with someone you're close to. Hopefully you could help him accept consulting an expert about these feelings to stave off too much having to deal with such overwhelming distress. But if this doesn't sound likely, then drag him in to see someone, taking a copy of the lyrics with you. Just don't let it lie. It sounds like he IS trying to cope, but he might have too much to struggle against. or he might be winning the fight. You don't know which it is and it would be tragic if you were wrong. Marg [/QUOTE]
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