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Paranoia - Maybe silly but...
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<blockquote data-quote="AmericanGirl" data-source="post: 505507"><p>Thanks for the support. Every cell in my body says he is out of control. He has the first math exam tomorrow (in a class he has failed twice before.) I offered to help. Refused. Looked online and saw he hadn't attempted any of the homework or extra credit. When I asked, I was told that doing so only makes him less likely to do it. </p><p></p><p>While I understand that addicts think differently than we do, I still get angry than he is wasting my money for college and fearful of what he will do to support himself. I've raised this child on my own almost since the beginning. I have only one relative left who isn't an addict. When he falls (not if), he will look to me. Of course, if he is using, I know what to do. But, if he gets clean, then what do I do? If he plays away the money I have saved for his college, should I replace it? I guess what I mean is I'd love the opportunity to help him...and he doesn't want what I am trying to give.</p><p></p><p>It hurts.</p><p></p><p>Side question - does anyone have any advice on redoing a will to protect difficult child in this situation? I don't want to leave him anything if he isn't sober. Yet I don't have any family capable of watching over it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AmericanGirl, post: 505507"] Thanks for the support. Every cell in my body says he is out of control. He has the first math exam tomorrow (in a class he has failed twice before.) I offered to help. Refused. Looked online and saw he hadn't attempted any of the homework or extra credit. When I asked, I was told that doing so only makes him less likely to do it. While I understand that addicts think differently than we do, I still get angry than he is wasting my money for college and fearful of what he will do to support himself. I've raised this child on my own almost since the beginning. I have only one relative left who isn't an addict. When he falls (not if), he will look to me. Of course, if he is using, I know what to do. But, if he gets clean, then what do I do? If he plays away the money I have saved for his college, should I replace it? I guess what I mean is I'd love the opportunity to help him...and he doesn't want what I am trying to give. It hurts. Side question - does anyone have any advice on redoing a will to protect difficult child in this situation? I don't want to leave him anything if he isn't sober. Yet I don't have any family capable of watching over it. [/QUOTE]
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